Should I get an assessment?

Hello I have recently reached out to a private psychologist/assessor regarding possible ADHD testing. She asked me to complete the following: Wender Utah Scale (completed along side my mum) Weiss Fictional Impairment Scale Adult Observer Questionnaire (completed by my husband) I also completed my own version of this. Basically she has said that my results are 'boderline'. However with my husband results she would not complete an official assessment. She has basically left it up to me to decide and I don't know what to do. My question is what is involved in the assessment? Obviously if I don't have ADHD then ok but I would like gain some support as to why I am like I am. I have experienced trauma on and off in my life and I deal with high functioning anxiety. I became a parent 3 years ago and this is when things ramped up and I noticed a lot in myself.To add, I keep a lot inside my head and I would say that I have mastered hiding how I am or how I feel. Whether that has been to suit others over the years, who knows. My mother growing up had mental health struggles, she solo parented myself and my siblings as my father was away a lot. I felt as if she was not present in some years of my childhood. From what I remember she was stressed and depressed. Vacant a lot of the time. My husband also works away for potentially months at a time. I don't think anyone can really answer for what goes on in my head but me! What would you do? Do you think I should look in to therapy to rule out possibilities before considering an assessment? I have had trauma counselling before, CBT etc. Thank you ☺️