Marriage needing a break
We have two children (3 and 4 months) and have been together 13 years. Since being pregnant with my 2nd, things have changed with my partner. I am wondering if it’s the change with the 2nd and having less time/ sleep or whether are marriage is on its last legs. We don’t spend much time together and when we do, it’s not quality time and I just don’t know if we have changed too much. I just and plan nice things with the kids and make plans for the future but he seems quite disinterested and unenthusiastic. My husband is very snappy and doesn’t seem to show love or affection anymore and I don’t particularly like his company anymore either because of this. Again, it could be we are tired, juggling two children and haven’t found the balance. I am not sure whether we take a little break to think…
From other parent I've spoken to it's, sooo common. I think you have to really make time for each other whereas before it was easy (it every day after work, weekends), you have added stresses as you tiredness (makes us cranky), big emotions from your kids (makes us cranky) and limited time to bond and be affectionate. The biggest thing is communication and having the talk. Friends with older kids almost say your relationship takes a bit of a pause until you kid (s) are 5 or so, as they start going to school so you have more time to yourselves. We've had to schedule in date nights just so we have time together, give each other breaks from the kid at the weekend so we can be on best form etc.