Bedtime routine

I would say most people ‘are doing it’ because they’re not at work so might be a little easier. I would try and implement a nap schedule in the day so their last nap is around 4:30/ 5ish so you can put them to asleep around 7/7:30. I always eat with my baby as well and wash up, clean etc in a wake window. Mine loves to just watch me 🤣 I don’t know your circumstances or ins and outs but hope it works out for you! Xx

@Sam my husband works from home and I’m just at home with her too, it’s more that when she goes to sleep at 7:7:30 are you then going to bed then too?

My baby went down at 8 tonight and I shortly followed but I don’t always! I have a monitor if I didn’t get to eat or wanting to do something in the house

My little girl goes to bed between 6/7 she's nearly 4 months. I just have the monitor on downstairs until I go to bed around 9. Normally have dinner at 5 as we have a 4 year old as well.

I've started using a monitor. I know they say to be in same room until 6 months, but I think if you are really on it- make sure they are in safe sleeping space and monitor on and you regularly check it, I can't see how it's any less safe than being asleep in the same room? I think just use common sense. I was going to bed with my boy, but it's getting earlier and I'm not always ready to got to bed at 7pm and then was just sitting in the dark with him which wasnt that fun. Its been lovely having an hour or two back in the evenings to sit downstairs and eat dinner and watch a program pretty much uninterrupted with my wife. But some nights I'm exhausted from the awful sleep so just go down with him anyway!

Thank you! I think I’ve been so nervous about leaving her with a monitor because of SIDS (my MIL is head of safeguarding in London so hear a lot of horror stories). That + severe anxiety + adhd = chronic overthinker & worrier! I think we’ll start trying the monitor method soon. I know I need to just relax, it’s just so hard 😓😓😓

My daughter goes to bed around 6/6.30 (quite early but she literally can’t stay up past then!) so we have a monitor and I come to bed around 9. I can see her moving/breathing and she’s absolutely fine xx

My little boy has been going to bed by 7.30pm since he was about 10 weeks old, we have the monitor streaming to the laptop. He also has his naps either in his crib with the monitor or on me. I also go in and check on him through the evening. I don't know when the advice became "stay in the same room at all times", I did the same with my older two when they were babies and never had a HV or doctor say I should be in the room with baby at all times beyond the newborn stage.

I follow the guidelines of being in the same room. If he is asleep at 6 or 7, he's in the moses basket with us. He wakes up and I then wash him, we tidy etc and then we go to bed.

I put our LG down anywhere between 6-8pm. She's already in her own room, but even if she wasn't I'd use a monitor and go back to preparing dinner to eat. Sometimes I've tried doing meal prep while she's having her last nap of the day. Then popping it in a rice/ slow cooker just before her night time routine. I make 4 portions so every other night I don't need to cook more. 🙏 Overnight oats for breakfast. Hope that helps!

We use a camera monitor. So my boy will sometimes nap late like your girl, however I cap him at 30 minutes of it’s after 7 and then keep him to a 2 hour wake window. I don’t go to bed with him, I put him down and use the monitor, get what I need to done that wasn’t achieved while he was awake and then spend an hour with my partner and then join him in bed. The longest I’ll leave him before joining him in 2 hours but we’re constantly watching the monitor and we physically check on him if we go near the bedroom. As long as I can hear and see him breathing on the camera, im happy to do what I need within reason. Dont stress yourself out by trying to have such an intense night routine. If all those things aren’t working, take one away! Because it’ll stress all of you! Maybe take away the pressure of having to have a book at night? Or just do it earlier on if it’s really important to you. Do what works for your family x

Thank you all so much ♥️♥️♥️ this has really helped me relax and looking forward to carving out a healthier happier nighttime routine ♥️♥️♥️

We have been using a camera monitor from 8 weeks because baby goes down around 7.30/8pm and we stay up a little later. We check on him regularly too