What do I do? Found out my husband is subscribed to Only Fans

Keep digging.

how? I can’t get into his bank account but I know the last 4 digits of his card matches up with the one on the subscription. He had also been subscribed to other accounts but they have expired due to “insufficient funds” because he got a new card. He’s been receiving emails from Only fans since June 2023! A month after we got married… like what the fuck do I do 💔

I would just have a sit down talk with him. If it makes you feel like shit tell him. It will eat you alive and it won’t get better if you just leave it alone

Tell him you know then leave him, I’ve had a fiance whom I was with for 5 years who did stuff like this and said “I’ll never do it again baby I’m sorry” then do it the day after or week after and get caught again , it will never stop even if you bring it up continuously after again and again saying it bothers you, men like this are disgusting pigs who don’t care for anyone else but they’re own sexual gratification then cry wolf when the woman they claim to “love” leaves them, seems like he’s a porn addict to me and there’s prob more then just an only fans on his phone for sure.

Don’t say anything. Check his email through his phone. Check hidden apps. Check erased pictures. Check erased messages. Try to get into his account. Maybe he has it open on the browser of his phone on the incognito option.

If a man loves you he wouldn’t be looking at other girls to please himself either, he literally has you to do that with

And dig through anything if you need to prove more to yourself , you don’t need his bank information, go through his camera roll, maybe see if he has that CapCut app or editing apps, search those as well

thank you just don’t know how to even bring it up

I know I need to say something it’s just how. I don’t want him to turn it on me for going through his phone

thank you for your comment. We’ve been together for nearly 10 years and married nearly 2 with 2 very young children. It’s just difficult because apart from this there’s nothing wrong in the relationship. I was looking through his phone to make sure he’d been paying our gas bill and then found that! It’s just so heartbreaking tbh

He’s gonna use that as an excuse to have something on you just because he’s guilty and he knows it, just say you had no plans to go though his phone and was looking for his mothers number to ask her something because you lost her number, if he wants to sit there and do this to you, a little lie wouldn’t hurt him.

This is tough, it makes us feel like shit!

The reality is so many watch p*#! and always have and it’s probably not discussed because it’s just fake fantasy stuff and swept under the rug.
However OF I think is a different ballgame it feels more real & really these people can be reached out to!
As difficult as a conversation as it would be I think it’s one that needs to be had, he needs to respect you.

It’s going to be very awkward. You just have to start. Maybe do it before y’all go to bed and it’s just the two of you

I think if you confront him make sure you have all the evidence to back up your statements. It will solidify your argument. If you need a copy of the bank statement, get it. If you can take screenshots of his OFs account and email them to yourself do it. This proof will be good if divorce is an option later too.
It might also help to open up the conversation and ensure you both have an open discussion.
I don’t believe people can’t learn from mistakes. But therapy might be necessary and conditional for the relationship to recover from this. Also, shared accounts, shared laptop and phones access until trust is gained. You can get apps on phones that share everything with the other person.
Good luck hon 😘

Only a husband with something to hide would be pissed about you using his phone. I use my husbands phone without a second thought. We both have each others passwords. I would definitely confront

I mean it really depends. My husband's never paid for porn.. but I have caught him on porn talking to likely a man chat bot thing. He sent no money just got what looked like numerous fake photos of 2 girls lmao

But I was 8 months pregnant when I found out and cried so much. It was so bad. I was worried I'd make our daughter depressed over it. Then I watched porn for revenge and spoke to 1 guy I knew back in the day non sexual just to stroke my ego & that worked 10000%

Women on here at the time told me not to get even with him, he must be cheating. He's never. I've seen his phone in a span of 9 years now, and I check 1 or 2x a year randomly when he wouldn't know. Same as he has access to mine bc that's something you both should he allowed to do. Period.

He had files of me naked in his phone I mean I dug hard. Nothing. So no offense if it's just porn.. why not pornhub.. I'd be pissed he's paying for porn lol but also are you emotionally okay right now? Are you not intimate right now?

If you were snooping on his phone that means you felt something was off to do that. Subscribing to a channel is a step too far for me, I would talk to him and see why he had to do that, what does he take from that. If you are pregnant again, that means you are being intimate ,so why does he needs to pay for whatever this channel offers.
Have an adult conversation, then take it from there. I wouldn't think of leaving my husband straight up for that, though, but I would want to understand and for him to stop. Marriage is work and understanding on both side imo

Why were you going through his phone anyway? Plus, you said "snooping" so there's no way you were just looking for gas bill payments, otherwise you wouldn't have found this. Anyhow, yeah you can't raise it without him knowing that you've been snooping

I would honestly just flip on some porn that is your style and ask him to join you and have some fun. He will likely be turned on and stop whatever else he’s doing or he will consider it a safe space and volunteer that he’s been dabbling. I had an honest conversation with my partner about how horny I am pregnant and he just showed up with a few nice vibrators and said they were extras for when he was working lol. He could have easily shamed me too. I think sometimes people are being off and you have to be cautious but sometimes they are also just having some healthy sexy time. Hope it’s a healthy happy outcome for you guys.

I found out my ex fiancé had been doing the same (3 years ago now) I didn’t snoop for the fun of it but something happened that night and things were adding up too much not to check, turns out he was subscribed to a lot of our friends and one he said was his girl bestie, he was using a fake name so she didn’t know it was him (me and the girl get on absolutely fine since) but he had been messaging her on it for private photos literally the month before he asked me to marry him and the week we went away for his birthday weekend safe to say I ended it straight away didn’t even let him explain himself because he would have acted the victim, people have said it’s not cheating but it is completely unloyal and if he’s doing that how is he seeing them in his head when we’re all in a group, 3 months after we split up he was engaged to someone else and now I’ve been in a 2.5 year relationship, with a beautiful baby boy, people say the grass isn’t always greener but in my case it was completely.

The problem is not that you went through his phone. The problem is what he is doing and hiding it from you. So what if you went through his phone? That wouldn’t be a problem if he wasn’t doing sketchy stuff.

Discuss this with him. Maybe he needs some spice in the bedroom