Anyone else have been through a similar situation?
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@Alessandra I don’t even know, sometimes I just feel like I’m over exaggerating but it’s just like?? If he did it for other girls why can’t he do it for his wife? It just makes me over think about if he even loves me or actually finds me attractive..he deleted everything and says he doesn’t post anything on anywhere I’ve told him already he needs to quit looking at other females on ig who are almost half naked and he deleted everything with us, doesn’t post he deleted ig but he has it now
What I’ve learned is that if you truly matter to someone, they care about the things you care about. Even if it doesn’t make sense to them. Don’t settle mama
@Alexandra I don’t ever think he will understand I don’t even know what to do. I cry 😭😭because we are married and I never wanted to get married if marriage was gonna be this miserable (there’s other things that go on)
I will say, my husband never posts me and my baby for privacy reasons. We don’t want strangers in our business. It’s so easy for people to get jealous and not wish you well when you post blessings. He may have changed his views and wants to protect his little family ❤️ have you ever asked him?
I would say, focus on yourself and making yourself feel good and doing things that make you happy just for you. Work out when you can, pamper yourself when possible, date yourself, don’t prioritize him right now , only you. That in itself is very attractive. Pretend like he’s not in the picture and see how quick that will actually draw him in.
@Alessandra I have asked him! He told me he doesn’t post because that’s just not his thing but he has always post things whether on his feed or story until I had asked me one day to post me and he did it like if I was forcing him to. It’s not really about privacy for him because he still expects me to post him here and there cause that’s what I do if I’m with someone I post them even if it’s his freaking hand near by you know?
@Reetu oh girl I have, I’ve worked out he tells me I’m working out without him, I get ready everyday and nothing from him. He just wants to have sex whenever the heck he wants and that’s it oh and when I make him bfast,lunch and dinner oh thanks babe
Sounds like a lot of things going on deeper than what’s on the surface. Maybe you or both of you should consider couples therapy. There could be deep rooted issues going on that need to be addressed, it’s worth trying ? From personal experience I can say it’s helpful and makes you feel validated !
I’m a huge believer of the energy that you reflect is the same energy that you attract. Off course not having his attention and care makes you think all of those things but if he’s still with you is for a reason. I would start working on feeling worthy and changing some behaviors around him, just show him that you feel 100% secure and happy with how you are and look, invest time in yourself, you must know the areas you’re lacking and see what happens. I hope you’re able to get the results you want in your marriage.
My husband and I have been married for almost 17 years he never posts me or his daughter and I would have to literally update his FB and put photos up of his daughter and he wouldn't comment unless someone else did first.. just as you are, I was confused and hurt wondering if he loves me why doesn't he do it just like I do? And then I realized he never posts anything at all only recycled reposts,not ever his daughter or himself,his mama or sisters . No ex to compare myself to. I know he loves me but I see he's very private. But in your case I think it's because he is living two lives . One life online and another life offline.. two totally different things. Some men who do this have an old flame or ex they speak to on that platform and she only hears a one sided tainted bias version of the situation from him and he can't live up to the lies he told if he posts his wife on his social media 😔
Are you sure you still want to be with him?