Has anyone been able to have an agreement about finacials and child visitations with other parent without court?

Personally never experienced this, but based on what I have seen from other…

The courts suck BUT they make a clear black and white line.

When you both do a “scout’s honor of agreement” it’s basically bull shit and if one person is in a sour mood, they could legally fuck you where it hurts.

For example, dad agree to pay child support (let’s say $100 every Friday). He’s never once skipped payment.
One day you decide to go to court…guess what, those 5 years of dad paying $100 a week aren’t legally documented. So he would have to pay child support moving forward AND back child support from the last 5 years where you had a “scouts honor” of $100 weekly.

One way to avoid the court:
- getting a legal mediator.
-creating and documenting who gets what (physical/ legal custody) (holidays and vacations) (how both parents will agree to communicate, in my opinion text because it documents everything that’s being said).
-I would get your agreement notarized.

Even though this agreement is not legally enforceable like a court order, it can still be used as proof of your arrangement if legal issues arise later. If you ever want it to be legally binding, you can submit it to a court for approval.
If you feel and think you can settle things outside the courts, more power to you both. But if you’re finding agreement difficult, if communication is bad, if someone keeps falling on their end of the deal and much more….consider the courts.
Going to court can get nasty but if y’all both have your kids in mind and aren’t seeking revenge…it can be civilized.

Good luck and I hope things work out for EVERYONE involved