Not sure how to feel
With tomorrow being my first mothers day I feel it should be special...
I'm just concerned my partner has again gone out for the day/evening and will be drinking so will likely be hungover tomorrow.
I feel like I'm a bit annoyed with it being my first and us struggling to conceive I feel like he should be putting in the effort to make it special and I just have this fear he's going to come home so late tonight and so drunk that it will just ruin tomorrow.
His mums planned a lunch with his side of the family, but I feel like if he comes home in an absolute state and ruins tomorrow for me then I won't want to go! I don't know if I'm being too harsh, should I just suck it up and go and just accept that tomorrow is just another day?
He goes out regularly on weekends and comes home in a drunken mess and although he's promised not to ruin tomorrow he's promised so many times he won't get drunk and will be able to do things and then has been unable to.
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I can definitely relate here. I'm sorry he's s drunken mess on the weekends. If he gets drunk tonight and is hanging tomorrow I'd be so annoyed. He shouldn't be out tonight he should be worried about making tomorrow nice for you. But he won't change unless you make it clear you won't stick around to be disrespected.
@Georgina thank you. I'm glad I'm not being unreasonable. I have made it very clear he needed to start stepping up and he did improve and make changes but I just feel like tomorrow Is one day out of the whole year and if he can't make it special like it should be then I just feel like he doesn't really care! I'm sorry you can relate! Xx
I agree! Nothing against a drink or two but it's about being sensible to make sure tomorrow is a good day as that's not just about him.
If he can’t do it in moderation and keep promises I think you should go and just tell his whole family he chose to go get too drunk and break a promise to you as he often does. I’d thank them for planning the lunch and inviting you and be really greatful they’re doing something for you. Go do it with the people who clearly put effort into you and enjoy it.
I genuinely think they just don’t get it…like it’s another day on the calendar for them. But why not take the chance to celebrate? Lord knows between the nappies and feeds and worries and walks and milestones and monitoring that we don’t really get a chance to actually sit and say “look at what we’ve done!”.
Go to the lunch, with or without him, and surround yourself with the people who care. And then when Father’s Day comes around, you can choose whether to make a big deal and show him the right thing to do - or you book yourself a weekend away and leave him to it!
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