A question to Single moms/mums…
Do you look at all these posts about deadbeat husbands and boyfriends and just think, ‘just leave them already!’
I don’t think many realise how liberating and how lovely it is to raise your baby yourself and have all that stress of the man-baby flushed away for good. Plus they are literally wasting so much time feeling anxious and shitty, when they could be feeling good and clearheaded, and enjoying their child’s life instead of focusing their energy on a useless negative man.
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Sorry, I’m not single but I still voted…because when you find someone who is actually worth it…you’re sooooo glad you didn’t stick around.
Question: How do you deal with the deadbeat husband who will fight for custody on principle? You know it will screw up the kids long term if he gets 50/50 custody which is what you state pushes unless incompetency is proven.
My baby’s dad left when I was 30 weeks pregnant so I don’t know any different but sometimes when I read them I think I’m glad he left but at the same time I never wanted to be a single mum and wish I had someone to talk to at the end of the day
I don’t believe there is one option necessarily better than the other. Whether you’re single or married- chances are, at some point, you’ll face struggles and challenges. Similarly, you can also find happiness when single or married. What’s important to me is being in a good (enough) headspace to raise my baba as best as I can.
Not a single mom, but my mom was. Not every single mom has the “luxury” of no longer dealing with the dad or his family. My mom was very glad to not be with my dad anymore but she had to deal with a lot of crap from my dad and us kids were stuck in the middle. She hated not having the family she thought she’d have or getting the help she needed/deserved. She did it all and went back to school with 2 kids. Meanwhile having to send us screaming kids to our dad’s house basically every other day. Dealing with his drama and my stepmom. Your life as a single mom isn’t anymore perfect than someone who’s married. Everyone has their own version of a hard life. Not every situation is as simple as “just leave” and you only now one side a 2 minute story of something that’s happened vs a whole relationship and maybe years of working on it.
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