My man in the past has told me that he kissed a few guys. (While drinking) I just found out awhile ago, him and his friend were sharing stories of past experiences where they’ve both kissed the same sex. He never told me about…
The conversation until now. I trusted this person in my house, I trusted this person around my kids, I trusted them hanging out multiple times a week. I trusted him going over to his house with our kids. I thought it was weird how into texting he was with this friend. Now he just told me today because I was asking about that friend and this information was shared and now I feel betrayed and he says I’m overreacting that it was just a friendly conversation about guys kissing guys. Lmao but to me I feel like it’s a classic case of a person having bad intentions because if it wasn’t a big deal he would have told me when the conversation happened not at a later time. I think he had bad intentions with this person as it’s coming up two years later and fell out his tongue versus telling me about it when it happened. What do you think? Should I move on because to me that’s snake behavior or I’m I over reacting?
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I’m confused. Are you saying you think he’s cheating with him because they’ve both kissed men in the past?
wait they kissed each other in the past or they’ve just both kissed dudes in the past?
What does them hanging out or being with your kids have to do with same sex kissing? I’m so confused…about this whole post.
I feel like this has to be coming from a place of either internalised or just outright homophobia on your part, because kissing someone of the same sex in the past has nothing to do with your safety around children? You bringing up trusting him around your children was completely unnecessary to the conversation. Regardless of that, is it something that you have asked him about and he has lied? if not I do not see the problem at all. He is not obligated to tell you about this stage in his life at all, especially if you had never asked about it, and it definitely doesn’t make any difference to his character. If it is more the fact he didn’t tell you about the chat, I sort of understand (still don’t agree), but do you inform him of every conversation you have - I doubt it. If you are uncomfortable with this personally and do not want to continue with a relationship, you have every right to those preferences and boundaries and do not need to, but personally I do not see the big deal ❤️
So he’s kissed men in the past… so what? Have you kissed people in the past prior to getting into this relationship? People are allowed to have had past experiences. Maybe it was just him exploring his sexuality when he was younger but he decided it wasn’t a big deal and so doesn’t share it with people. Maybe he’s somewhat conflicted with his sexuality but was nervous about how you might take it so never shared it with you until now. Maybe it was just deeply personal and something he didn’t really want to share with anyone. Just because he’s kissed men doesn’t make him suddenly unsafe around your kids. Gay people aren’t paedophiles.
It kinda sounds like she’s saying he gave her information to make it seem like it was the past but he’s always talking to his friend who I guess “shared” those experiences and he left those details out. Maybe OP thinks she can’t trust them around her kids solely because he left out info. It’s hard to tell with men if they leave out information on purpose or not sometimes. She’s definitely having an emotional reaction and feeling unsafe and a lack of control but I don’t think this is homophobia or the inability to accept someone’s past experiences. Or it is…I don’t know just a thought
My husband says guys aren’t real friends unless they’ve kissed 😂 that being said, he was partially joking, it’s happened but not like they made out or anything. Just like a a dare at a party or something like that when they were young.
And said guy, was the best man at our wedding. I’m gonna agree with the internalize homophobia issue because as everyone’s said, it doesn’t make him unsafe or a pedo or something because he’s gay or bi…
It might not have been something he felt the need to share with you
@Incognito PLEASE RE EXPLAIN/RE PHRASE YOUR POST IF YOU COULD AS IM TOO CONFUSED. Thanks.
I'm not sure what the problem is. Sounds like they both might be bisexual but not labelled it. It doesn't mean they are going to cheat together or that either are a risk to your children...
Can this person message me I have a lot to say because I went through this ❤️
I guess the outcome was not so good? 🫣
Ok, I think you are assuming they had more than kissing… or felt some kind of way. And you are feeling they still had a thing going on while being around you and your kids?
He ended up telling me he likes anal and that when he was 17 he slept with a transgender and liked anal ever since… this info was hard to get it started off with a rim job then slowly saying he used my vibrator then the story came out so…
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