Confused..

Im Dominican and Puerto Rican my dad is black and my ma is mixed but looks white and im a copy paste of her while my siblings look like a mix and ma family has always made jokes bout it honestly i don’t mind cuz i love ma family and i know its not meant mean but that’s their way of loving sometimes if it doesn’t feel right with u u should talk to him bout it but honestly things like this can be a joke especially when it comes from family in a loving way ofc if it goes to a certain extent and u got your own boundaries but a lot of Caribbean’s make jokes like this and I feel like u would know how it’s meant by how he sounded when he said it

I feel like he was trying to make a joke however, I think you have to question why that didn’t sit right with you? Has there been other occurrences where he’s made similar jokes that offended you or do you feel there’s negative behaviours or attitudes towards complexion? It’s sometimes good to have a conversation around these things to help understand why that didn’t sit right, so bigger issues don’t come about later. This is just a suggestion, but I often feel there’s something behind uncomfortable feelings about comments like this. It’s also cultural I think as my baby came out very light with blue and golden (hazel) eyes and my nan said “he’s whitey” which is a Caribbean term used to describe a person who is mixed but has a fairer complexion. I know it’s in a jokey way so I find it funny but I could see where someone else may not x

Yeahh he was just making a joke it’s a thing people see an interracial couple and assume light skin baby everyone I know said the same thing “awww your gonna have cute lil light skin babies” my little boy is very much white could say paler than his dad and we’ve both said something similar to what you’ve mentioned cause it’s tru you don’t always get the caramel colour but it’s always assumed

Thank you all for your comments, without jumping on a negative tandem as some people do on here.

I think it didn’t sit right because I’ve had a lot of people comment on her complexion lately and I think I just had my back up with it! Especially things I know have no malicious intent but I just think oh if she was darker you wouldn’t have said that kind of comments ..

But thank you all xxx

This is so understandable honestly it’s also is about who says it how they say it and to make sure how they meant it maybe it would make you feel better to ask him how he meant it whatever feels best for u to do mama