Our little girl is 20m old, she will fight the afternoon nap unless she has been absolutely tuckered out in the morning 🤣 so on my days off with her I always have to make sure I have plans to get out the house work her in the morning to expel her wild toddler energy. Playgroup, swimming, trip to the park or a walk where she will do most of the walking out of the pushchair usually does the trip. At nursery they always say she goes down for naps so easily so I realised she wasn’t getting enough activity at home in comparison Worth a try! If you’re already doing that and she’s still fighting maybe it is time to drop the nap.
I mean I think it's conflicting? If she's napping some other days I think I'd just follow her lead. They'll normally drop the naps by themselves until they feel like they don't need them. If it's making her overtired I'd try letting her have a run around outside or taking her for a stroll in her pushchair or a drive in the car.
I dropped my little girls when she was 2 because she was napping at nursery but the time she was napping was like 5pm I pick her up at 5:30 and it was a disaster come bedtime she was fully refusing to settle so I told the nursery if she seems tired phone me I’ll collect early because she’s not napping whilst there and I’ll be doing the same with my little boy when he starts in September he’s 2 in July and hardly naps in the afternoons now x
Sounds like she's ready to drop the nap. I'd ask nursery to drop it too. It's clearly not what she needs anymore We found grumpiness at about 4pm when she first dropped it but nothing a couple of early nights whilst she adjusted couldn't fix.