How would you react if your husband kept saying you need to exercise after you gave birth?

He can absolutely do one!!! Don’t worry about weight AT ALL, you’ve just given birth and you need to fuel, nourish and be comfortable for you and your baby. It’s hard enough in the early days as it is x

Tell him it's not on your priority list. Looking after yourself and your children is top priority. My partner has mentioned several times about me getting back to the gym "when you can" and I just said I'll go when I want to go and right now, I don't want to. I want to look after myself by relaxing when I can. I'm overweight but it's nothing that I'm worried about. I've just had a baby.

Do u personally feel uncomfortable about your weight? Like are you concerned about your health and ability to do activities? If not put him in his place no need for your partner to be negative as they should worship your body for everything you do. Walking up stairs after birth has to be difficult let alone with a toddler. If you feel the need to work out go for walks that you can handle and low impact videos at home and go at your own pace. But only when you feel like you have recovered enough from giving birth. Do not push yourself! As for him if you are concerned about his health, well-being, or ability to take care and keep up with the kids he is the one that need to be exercising.

I normally am uncomfortable with my weight since I used to be anorexic. I have been trying to get better but with him making the comments it makes me starve myself a bit and I used to eat 2-3 meals a day and now it’s like maybe 1 with some snacking

Your husband can go kick rocks. Your body is still going to be feeling the effects of pregnancy on your abdomen for at least 6m, with also the effects of relaxin levels finally normalising after.
Tell him that if he wants to take over childcare for a few hours every day whilst you hit the gym, and also if he takes on the role of making meals with macros conducive to weight loss and strength, AND on the condition he sorts his own weight issues out, THEN you’d take him seriously. Seriously this is a major red flag for me.

Please
Do not starve yourself. Instead increase
Your protein intake, increase fibre, start taking about 3g of creatine daily and make sure to have a small bite to eat before even going on a walk. This only IF you want to get back on it. Listen to the podcast by Mel Robbins featuring Dr Sims who explains all the stuff we’ve been doing wrong because all we’ve been told has been based on male bodies and won’t work for us.

I cannot stress enough fuel your body!! Ik easier said then done but if your trying to get comfortable eating more and it’s a struggle keep high protein in you diet. Do not purge if your struggle with that reach out for help. I understand that struggle so if you ever want to reach out I’m here. And try to create body positivity. First thing first your partner needs to change their attitude and comments about you and to you. Like complete 360 to where he not only is making comments that trigger you but also makes comments that lift you up. Try and build some self confidence for yourself too any time you pass a mirror stop and rewire your brain. Stop and crush the negativity that u feel and think. Try to find three or more things you find beautiful in yourself. Don’t let your brain, society, or social media let you think you should look like a highly athletic 18yo girl. You are a woman that has honestly had her body go through it giving two humans life.

The two are not related. Most mothers experience back problems after giving birth as they are bending down more and carrying an infant plus your body stretching during pregnancy.
As for him he’s an idiot. Even my oh moaned about his back when our kids were born.