What was on my baby’s mouth?

I would be concerned. Pretending coconut is plastic is weird. I would probably set up cameras in the house for safety. Either everything is fine and you have added peace of mind, or she's hiding things and you have proof.

I agree with @Rhiannon. The behavior is very bizarre. I think a nanny cam might be the next step to finding out if there’s any more odd behavior or things going on.

@Rhiannon how do you put one ? Do you disclose that you will have it or is hidden?

I wouldn’t necessarily disclose unless asked

I would look up your state laws about consent and recording. I live in a one party state and would choose not to disclose in this case. If I was hiring a new nanny I would disclose upfront though.

Speaking as a nanny myself , the family I babysit for now has always had cameras but I never minded because I have nothing to hide. I also get the paranoia of thinking the worst of people but just because she didn’t know what it was and made a suggestion doesn’t mean she was being weird or shady. Babies put things in their mouth all the time and it truly could’ve been anything. I would also make my conclusion based on the Nannie’s previous behavior or how she is with your child over all. Does she set off any other red flags ? Has she ever given you any reason to question her? Agian not saying that your feelings are invalid just sharing from the other side 🤍

Is the nanny an older lady? My mom watches my sister’s daughter and she’s obsessed with natural remedies, and give my niece multiple things. I know coconut works as a "laxative".

I still think whatever it is if that was the case she should ask first. Especially if it’s not family but I’ve always asked parents for permission before I gave their kids new things. You’ve also never know if they have any allergies to things. But again, I know there are bad people out there and they come in all forms but especially if the nanny has been trustworthy up until then they deserve the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise.

@Elisabeth very good point. She has a heavy mood and has a bit of attitude sometimes. Like one time she gave me shit because I made noise and woke up my daughter and another time she got mad at my dog for making a whole on the wall even I warned her to not let the dog out of her cage if she would go out (she didn’t even apologized). Also she only seems to talk to my daughter when I come out of the shower/room for me to see she is interacting with her. She took some food items without my permission but I really don’t mind it. My daughter likes to be with her tho.

@Nina yes! She is 40ish and vegan. I was just telling her how my daughter has been constipated lately! 😱

@Elisabeth I think I would have preferred if she straight up told me she gave her something and I wouldn’t have gotten mad. My gut is telling me she def gave her something maybe she had good intentions but I hate that she would hide it from me.

Well, then that was different. That’s all I was saying is if she had given you a reason to feel that way that would be one thing but if not then maybe it was just your mommy instincts kicking in. But I hope that if you do bring it up to her, she is receptive and you ultimately have to do. What’s best for you and your family. She can be great with your daughter, but if she’s not respecting you or your household, then that’s a different story. Like for example, of the family I sit for now they had a different nanny before me and she was great with the baby, but she was very unreliable and would just call out a lot or not show up and the mom expressed to me how she felt bad for thinking about letting her go, but she just wasn’t reliable