People not respecting boundaries

Keep ur mom away if possible this is dangerous for such a small baby. Ik you know this but don’t care if she gets mad tell her ur baby was JUST born and she is the cause of ur baby getting sick multiple times now. For ur baby’s safety ur keeping ur distance until she can respect boundaries

Yeah there’s consequences for disrespecting boundaries - stay firm with them, just because she’s your mum doesn’t give her the right to walk all over you/your boundaries/do what she likes with your baby. Show her facts or as horrible as it sounds - very sickly babies affected by common illnesses. Don’t play with babies health. My LO has been sick twice herself (she’s currently 7wks) but due to her brothers being in day care.

I told everyone before they held him, before they touched him, before they even seen him up close. Here are my rules (no kissing, no leaving my sight, etc) or this will be your one and only time with him. My sister kissed the top of his head one time and she never ever held him again. He is now 1.5 and he has seen her at Christmas and only at Christmas and she was forbidden from touching him. Hold firm to it. My MIL helped a TON the first few months PP. she was a godsend but I held her to the same standard and she knew I was serious. If she had kissed him she’d have been banned from our house indefinitely and not allowed to hold him, touché him, see him up close, and I would never trust her alone with him no matter his age. I don’t f with my kids or my boundaries. I hope you find a way you got this mama 🖤

I’m so sorry you’re going through this and watching your little baby get sick at the hands of your ignorant mother must be really frustrating and upsetting.. When I had my little girl over a month ago, my “mother” tried to claim ownership over my newborn. Down to calling her her child. She would also try to override my decisions as her mother and try to scrutinise what I did with her, down to telling me now to hold my child because she would be spoiled. Let’s say I made a mental note to lose my damn mind because I was not about to let anybody treat me like that around my child.. especially not let anybody ruin my postpartum plan for myself. My “mother” only has very limited access to my newborn now and has learned and will continue to learn to stay in her lane. Be really FIRM with your boundaries. xx

Omg, I would not be allowing my mum to even hold her if she kissed her the first time without my permission. Have you spoken to your mum about it? I would speak to her and set the boundary that if she wants to have her granddaughter in her life she has to start respecting your boundaries and what you want for your baby as the mother. No kissing at all, and going forward I wouldn't let her hold baby until she can be trusted. Stay strong mama!

@Erica that’s exactly what my mom has been doing calling her hers steamrolling my boundaries even my brother yelled at her to stop kissing my baby and she continued to do so she knows I have no problem cutting her off but it’s kinda hard when you live with your grandparents so she basically has a open invitation over and I can’t do anything about it especially when my grandma kisses her too

They can’t be around your kid if they don’t respect you. A sick person kissing a newborn can be deadly.

Lose your damn MIND! Do not be afraid to ruffle some feathers to protect your baby. I would stand my ground so firm we almost had a family meeting and my dad would always have to mediate.. it’s gotten so much better and I am an even more confident mama too now. That’s your baby mama, it hurts you to watch your child fall ill, clearly your “mother” doesn’t care for your child’s wellbeing and only wants to have control over your postpartum journey and make it all about her. I hope it all gets better for you eventually. xx