Good job, looking for different ways to help him and reaching out for ideas 🩷 you are doing a good job! I really like Big Little Feelings - they put a ton of valuable content on Instagram, and they also have a (paid) course that covers a lot on different behavior challenges. I think like the other commenter said, the closer term the consequences/reward the better. It sounds like you are spending quality time and listening and that can go a long way. I really feel you on how much our kids change as they grow - 2 to 3 is really different!
Time outs taking toys or things away for a minute rewards for listening pointing out when he’s doing a good job listening like praising his good behavior encourage listening with positive reinforcements