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At that age, I'd stick to the fact that pushing others isn't kind behaviour. We use our words, not our hands. We use our words first. We tell them to "stop, I don't like it" or "stop (behaviour)". I'm an educator, and this is what I do with my kids. It's also what I do with my 3 year old. I'd also ask what she could do instead, get her involved in the conversation. With the 1 year old, just reinforce that pushing isn't kind. We don't use hands and mimick kind choices. It'll take time, repetition, and persistence, but they'll get there.

You know what, I would not continue to correct it because in my opinion they did both wrong and right things and I wouldn’t want the message misconstrued… it isn’t as simple as this part was a yes this part was a no because the nuance will be lost on them. But I say all that because I think (new mom, I know nothing lol) I would value them sticking together and defending their personal space in this instance more than I would value using that as a teaching opportunity to educate them on their conduct with others in general… this is only because there will be many more opportunities to teach them how to handle conflict and boundaries differently, while their first memory of standing up for themselves and each other is something I would want them not to question the validity and importance of.

@Hannah I’m praying that if I can get it thru to the 3 year old then 1 year old will kinda fall in line kinda because she follows behind her sister 24/7 she wants to do whatever her sister does so hopefully if she sees her making good decisions then she will too 🤞🏾

The fact is that touching our hair is a huge cultural faux pas and this has its roots in spiritual traditions and social conflicts that do impact our society today. We are met with anti-Blackness too much for me feel like I’d be comfortable sending mixed signals around their right to not be treated with basic respect and dignity. While w/ kids that age it simply isn’t that deep, the response and correcting behavior of adults around them can be,& unfortunately if it is a core memory the lesson conveyed will gain that type of context for them over time as they make all these connections but by baby bit and that could be a big early influence (or maybe I was an extremely neurotic child lol I’m just remembering how I processed info early on and stuff like that sticks w/ kids). It’ll be easier for them to be taught later down the line that pushing her was wrong, than it will be to process a mix of positive and negative responses to defending themselves and each other, IMO

@🍄‍🟫🍄 that was her reason for pushing her instead of talking to her because I’ve drilled in her that your hair is your crown and you have to protect it (I was talking about keeping it tied up) but she took it how she took it 🤷🏾‍♀️😂

@Taylor 🥳🥵 I’M CRYING! Baby girl said did I not understand the assignment? 🤣🤣🤣

Keep practicing. At 1 and 3, their tiny brains aren't capable of understanding that kind of logic. This is a lack of words situation. Your little girl just didn't know how to say "keep your hands on your own body" to the other child, and because she's only 3, its likely she didn't know how or that she even needed to ask for help in that situation. If your kiddo shouts keep your hands on your own body, the teacher will likely notice because she's not tattling.

I think role play

It’s not gonna click for a while I work with this age 😂 Someone gently touching their head and someone pulling their hair makes no diffference to them, all they see is another kid coming toward them It’s good that they know to defend themselves but you could tell them “happy hands” “gentle hands” or “use your words” Short phrases can help And repeating them a million times helps too

At this age, they shouldn't be hitting any kids, even if a child hit them first. You tell someone. We be kind to others!!! Teach your kids' gentle hands and to be kind to others

@🍄‍🟫🍄 right OK, so you think that because a 3 year old touched her hair and her reaction was to push that child she was standing up for herself? Is that what you're saying?

@Becky oh hell no someone hits my kid you hit them back ! Period my kid is nobody’s punching bag

@Becky she was standing up for herself I just wanted her to speak up for herself first before you hit them. Fighting isn’t an absolute hard no but there needs to be a conversation first before you go hitting people

To be honest honest, if somebody touches me, I might just touch them back before talking it out too. 😂

@Taylor 🥳🥵 I'm not saying that kids have to be a punching bag, I agree that at a certain age if a child hits you, you hit them back and stand up for yourself when it comes to bullying then kick there arse for sure, but at the age of 3 to teach a child to hit back I don't agree because toddlers would probably just go around hitting each other if that's what every parent was teaching, but that's just my opinion

@Taylor 🥳🥵 I don't understand how she was staying up for herself a 3 year old touched her hair, so she pushed the kid to the floor. How is that standing up for herself? That's just being mean imo. Kids touch their kids if a child hugged her then what if she pushed her coz she was touched by another kid

@Becky because at no point should you be putting your hands on someone without permission idc if they’re 3 13 or 33 touching someone without permission is wrong ! The other kid was wrong ! Now had my kid told her to stop and she did it again then I wouldn’t have been upset about her pushing her it’s the fact that she just went straight to pushing I don’t like

@🍄‍🟫🍄 seriously 😂 she did not understand what she did wrong at all

You can use drawings make little books to model what could be done in certain situations.

Tbf kids should be taught to not touch other kids. Most settings do teach kids that.

They handled it right! I’m sorry but daycares workers don’t even do their jobs and mad they work there. Either your kid get mishandled or now their peers know, keep your hands to yourself.

My son has gorgeous hair and I don’t care how old you are, don’t touch him. And he says the same thing, it’s fucking weird

@Becky I’m not interested in having this discussion with you, Becky, but I will say this: I said what I said. You’re welcome to refer to my comments directly if you have questions for clarification, though.