Moms as grandmas
How do you navigate your relationship with your mother now that you’re a mom yourself ?
My mom is a great mom but she also does everything you would hear about that you shouldn’t do.
Like she’ll call my kid “my baby”, she wanted to be called mama at first, she takes him away from me when he’s crying and doesn’t give him back, she tries to feed him without telling me, she will say and do things that I don’t agree with basically. It’s almost as if she is raising him in every way that I don’t want him to be raised.
But she’s a good mom to me. So idk how to go about this. And I don’t want to constantly have to correct her every time. It’s exhausting.
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This is your baby Hun, not hers. Don't forget that. You have every right to tell her how you want things doing and when you want your baby back. If your mum doesn't like it, that's not on you.
You'll always do what you think is right for your child x
I'm having more of an issue with my MIL, as she keeps going to grab our boy every chance she has, even at the most inconvenient times. She's always referred to our pregnancy as her baby and has given him a nickname we used for our first pregnancy which we lost. I'll be honest, as it's not my mum I'm finding it really hard to say something but at the same time I'm starting to feel a lot of animosity towards her.
I definitely need to take my own advice 🤦♀️
Same issue here, she is absolutely amazing, super helpful but she is referring to herself as “mama” when she’s talking to him(she’s trying to change that now as she as told off by her sisters 😂)- she said when she holds our baby it reminds her so much of my husband when he was a baby so authentically she’s saying mama, she was also taking him when he’s crying, we told her not to as it kinda makes us feel like we are not capable of soothing our baby. Again also feeding him things when I’m not around, strong perfumes etc. in the beginning she was trying to get sooo involved in everything so I told my husband that I don’t need a third person in our relationship and we should be the ones dealing with the baby primarily. I don’t need opinion unless I’ve asked for one. So I spoke to my husband and explained all of this so he is also dealing with her but I still have to be telling her things because she’s trying to be cheeky and do things despite what we say.
If she is a good mom to you, she will hear your boundaries and start to respect you as a mom. Talk to her.
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