Recommendations for maneuvering not trusting my family to take care of my baby?
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Yes, take it step by step. Bring baby to their house and have them look after baby while you’re still there - maybe just in a different room, going in and out of where they are. Then maybe try again but leave the house to go on a wee 10-15 min walk. Also, ask yourself are these real concerns over how they’ll care for your baby? Or more solely anxiety in your part? The main thing is that your baby is safe and happy and if your baby will be safe and happy with family I think it’s a really nice option to build good relationships in the family 🥰
Hey Mama, sending you hugs! Hope you know it’s all a normal feeling especially when venturing into something new and different! What I would first suggest is know exactly what you want re care of baby for example part time with family part time with nursery etc What worked for me is discussing boundaries with family and my expectations with some room for compromise (this was big for me because I set the tone for how I want baby to be raised with or with me away) And just as Sian suggested take some time away- be it a shower or going for a walk 20-30 mins and gradually increase the time to when you’re comfortable. Also be vocal about any and everything you feel- create that safe space you need for both you and baby- family or anyone won’t know until you speak. Please don’t think you’ll be annoying, I’m sure they’ll love to spend time with both you and baby 🥰 Wishing you all the best xxo
Do some in between things to build that up. Some of it is trust, but also confidence that you can leave your baby. If you haven't left your baby before with anyone, it's super hard. Take baby over and have them take care of baby while you run errands for an hour. Or stay there with them but let someone else take charge. Take a nap so you are close but not going to take over. Things like that. Not jump straight to leaving them for an 8 hour day or something like that. Now, if family is crazy and unsafe, that's a whole nother conversation.