Bad sleeper

Following! Our 2 year old is exactly the same! Very hit and miss with sleep! Used to get anxiety every night going to bed. I've got a 5 month old too. 2 year old woke up 3 times last night, I managed to settle him with a cuddle then put him back down. However a few weeks ago he screamed for hours each night for 3 weeks and Screamed for 20 mins when putting him down. Wondered if that was sleep terrors or just regression. Nothing would settle him. Then all of a sudden stopped. My friends kid was the same. He had 18 month sleep regression as he was trying to talk loads, he was bad for like 2 months then. I did search for posts on here and someone recommended a herbal medicine called sleep berry, I didn't try it but was looking into it. I've always stuck to same routine too. So really just think it's stages they go through with development.

I wouldn’t say these figures are correct in all honesty.

How does little one fall to sleep ? We had issues where my little one kept waking in the night. We implemented the chair method whereby we started out putting him in cot away and then got further and further away. It completely stopped night wakes. We now just lay him down say “be right back to check on you - he repeats it” and that is that.

When they wake are they asking for anything / needing attention etc.

Do they have a comforter.

You’re definitely not doing anything wrong. It just takes time to find a routine that works for them xxx

It’s 100% biologically normal for infants (0-3) to wake during the night. He needs nurture not sleep training 💕

I haven’t suggested sleep training in the traditional sense of allowing cry it out. My toddler has never cried it out etc - the chair method is a supportive method, which enables a child to feel comfortable falling asleep in their cot with support or mum and dad. The reality is - it’s not healthy for parents or toddler to be up multiple times a night. Much better to enable a child to learn how to fall asleep with you supporting them and ensuring everyone gets a good night sleep. You can still provide all the love, attention etc. I would never leave my child to cry but never needed to as was there to support him to learn independence at night. Them poster is asking for a solution as she is sleep deprived xx

I am absolutely there with you with my little boy he was 2 in Feb. I’m 29 weeks pregnant and we went through a faze of about 2 months of not sleeping through again. He’s only just started to again. I heard that because of all our hormones and different smells that they become extra clingy again and it throws them out of sync. It is starting to get better again now but I felt so sick I was so tried :(

I promise it’ll get better xx

I have also read that it’s developmental as they’re talking more learning more and being so much more active that their brains don’t fully shut off at night. Causing wake ups or also bad dreams where they’re starting to understand and work things out. We’ve never co slept with our little one (just wasn’t for any of us). But we’d bring him in settle him with a cuddle for sleep and put him straight back to bed in his cot no problems. 2 wake ups per night but allowing him the comfort he needed helped all of us. There was absolutely no point in battles and tears when something was clearly up :(

Sometimes they just need a little comfort. Xx

I can see where you’re coming from here, but I think the thing with methods like this is it only works for a child that is pretty relaxed/naturally a good sleeper. If I tried this with my girl there would be a lot of tears, and it just wouldn’t work for us! I know you’re only trying to help, but I think sometimes people with good sleepers don’t necessarily understand what it’s like to have a child that isn’t wired like that! I hope that makes sense and doesn’t come across rude! Just trying to explain it from the perspective of someone with a not good sleeper! Xx