Feeling so fed up

I’m the same ! Not due til next weekend but she’s not engaged yet and I really want to do everything as naturally as possible but I’m also fed up and don’t want to be really overdue. I guess they will just come when they’re ready. I’m doing everything I can, walking, moving, stretching, resting, but the closer it gets and I have no signs of her coming, I’m getting anxious 😥 I’m so done with being pregnant now, completely lost myself by this point, so I’m really torn with how I feel. X

Same. I've already been off work two weeks, brought my mat leave forward cos was so done and uncomfortable. I enjoyed my first couple of weeks off and now I'm just ready. Sick of nesting ha. Also walking, napping, even trying curb walking ha but yeh I genuinely think deep down my baby just isn't ready yet. Gonna rant to midwife this week. Maybe they'll just engage while we are in labour and it'll all be fine. Don't think they can even do a sweep when head not engaged? Not sure... Fingers crossed for us both 🤞

My first baby wasn’t engaged until labour literally, 3rd baby now has been engaged for weeks and just makes for a more uncomfortable final few weeks in my opinion

I don't think it's true that first baby's head is usually engaged for weeks - i think that's more true of second or third babies.
Try to avoid sitting in a slouchy way and just stay as upright and active as you can, bouncing on a ball if you've got one. Could try the miles circuit too. Express some colustrum. Those were the things my consultant advised this afternoon when I asked how I could avoid having another overdue baby.

Do what you want to do and what feels right for you! Don’t let them scaremonger you. You’ll know what’s best for you and baby (unless there are serious risks)

The one thing they never seem to tell you (yet are supposed to according to nice guidelines) is that nearly all pregnant women spontaneously labour before 42 weeks. It’s a tiny TINY percentage that don’t.

Also I fundamentally disagree with any stat that starts “all babies” because they’re all so different. So I’d ignore the all first time babies are engaged for weeks thing too.

Adjust your expectations if you can. Add two weeks to your due date and just don’t treat yourself as overdue until then. If you want to do things naturally patience is all you need. And I say this at 40+5. I’m uncomfortable and if one more person asks me if I’ve had any movement I will lose my shit, but I’m determined that he will come when he’s ready and not because some old dusty man with a doctorate decided once upon a time that he’d put a timer on it.

Good luck whatever you decide xx

I truly believe that's right @Gaby
Hang on in there. I trust baby knows what's best. I think im just panicking a bit about head size too, like will it definitely fit through pelvis... surely these babies are designed for our bodies though. Just hope it doesn't mean a longer traumatic labour or something. Just want a positive experience really so that I'm not starting motherhood with a rubbish outlook. How on earth do you stop the messages of family and friends of are they here yet etc too.. takes some willpower and patience but I do really respect that and think it's probably the right thing to do by you and baby. The movements thing is so silly. Of course you'd let them know if you weren't feeling them anymore!!!

Their skull is in four pieces so it literally shrinks and the pieces overlap so that it can leave your body. That’s why they’re always born with such funny shaped heads 🤣 So I don’t really understand why they feel it necessary to chuck that measurement at you at all. I assume it’s checked for brain development rather than what you’re able to birth. But everything about the process is absolutely built to work with your body.
I wish I knew how to stop the family/friends texts. Every time they annoy me and yet every time I get too excited and share my due date.
Next time I get one I’m just going to be like oh they’ve been here for a week already. Did I forget to mention? 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

I'm the same i always give them the date hahahah it's too hard to not. Anyway all this stress is making me forget that there is a baby on their way and I should just get excited for them 🥰 they'll be here soon even though it feels like this is the gestation of an elephant 🐘