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@Hannah thank you for letting me know ^
I was told by my sons therapist at that age that discipline and taking things away is fine but only for a short period of time (sent to room for 10 minutes, electronic time shortened by 10 minutes.) The reasoning behind this was if you take things away for long periods of time then there are no consequences during that “long” time. Sure you can add to it but it will still feel like a “how much worse can it get” situation for them. For instance, if a child is sent to their room for 2 hours, they are already being punished for what feels like “forever” so they will continue to act out.
Have you looked into a skills coach? This really is a common struggle with ADHD. I've always heard we should subtract 3 years from their emotional age to really best help with parenting. When you talk to your child, stay open, ask why they felt the need to hit/bite and be curious. Then, role play what she could do instead. If she defends herself and gets in trouble, that's a totally different story and needs to be better taken up with the school. Everyone has the right to self- defense. ADHD parents have a tendency (myself included) to point out every single thing they're doing wrong (annoying sounds/fidgeting/volume/poor ability to follow instructions ect.) The new goal, is to point out everything they're doing right. The idea here is that positive reinforcement encourages good behaviors to happen more. When we constantly say stop or do something different, we're using negative reinforcement to increase negative behaviors. For children, all attention is good attention, even if it makes them feel bad.
@Jessica thank you ^^
@Keylii thank you ^^ all these details I appreciate
I would also recommend listening to this book. There are very practical examples for you to use. And you'll learn alot more about adhd in the process. How Not to Murder Your ADHD Kid: Instead Learn How to Be Your Child's Own ADHD Coach https://amzn.eu/d/0WPGALS You can also follow this podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/ep-54-your-child-is-not-broken-bitesize-summaries/id1655677210?i=1000640264962
Umm.. your kid is biting.. she needs discipline, my son has adhd also 6 and asd and he doesn’t bite & back in the day when he did he would lose his favourite things & we consulted specialists who said to redirect them focus on the positive behaviour try and not make a big thing about the bad behaviour.. in that saying, she’ll keep doing it if she doesn’t learn boundaries. Hope this helps.