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My little girl was born last week and I felt the same about my son.l I ended up having to leave him for 4 nights He’s 3.5 so i didn’t know how he was going to handle it when she was here but everything’s been so good since we got home and he adores his little sister.
Yeah… I get this 100% I had it last time and it’s back with a vengeance this time too. All I would say is that the love doesn’t get split, it just grows. And watching your first baby become a sibling and fall in love will make your heart swell every day. Good luck xx
I was exactly the same last night before I came in for my c section today. It’s also my sons third birthday on Sunday and the idea that I might not be home pains me but I just remind myself that these are the sacrifices we make to grow our family, to give them the gift of a sibling and life long friend and it will all be worth it, absolutely. Good luck xxx
Thank you ladies I really needed to hear these and know I'm not alone in the feeling! Had a good old cry several times last night but feeling much better this morning didnt have the best night sleep but think that's a mix of nerves/excitement. I hope all of you are getting on super well with your new little people (or soon to be here babies) and that your other children are loving being older siblings already ❤️
Could have wrote myself - I go in for C-section on Tuesday and I’m nap anxious about post-birth, not being physically able to support my 4 year old daughter or being bed bound and her thinking I’m prioritising baby over her (which in first couple weeks I will have to to some degree). I’ve spoken a lot with her about the baby, about mummy’s sore tummy when we come back from hospital and she seems to understand (and is telling me she’ll teach me how to run and jump when I’m better 🥲). I’m lucky my husband has 3 weeks off and we have husbands parents very close/very involved in daughters life so she will still be supported and feel all the love but I’m just so aware of the emotional/hormone ridden part of those first few weeks and know I’m going to be a wreck 🙃
I think we all get this. I felt it intensely with my second back in July 2023 and now I feel it again with our third. I'm feeling guilty and almost like I can't be excited right now. It will go away, you will love seeing your oldest become a big sibling. But give yourself grace and try not to force anything on your oldest. Remember that multiple feelings can be present at once and just because they feel grumpy or annoying baby taking up time or crying, it doesn't mean they don't also feel love. Hold space for those negative emotions so they don't become negative behaviours or resentment. And then just try to remember hearts only grow bigger to accommodate more love 💗
Oh don't. I've been in tears more than once this week grieving the fact it won't just be my son anymore soon. Crazy isn't it? I 100% want my second bub and love him so much already but I feel so guilty I'm about to change our lives forever. Hope your induction goes well tomorrow!