Partner doesn’t support

Partner rarely supports with kids and it sounds sad but I’ve just got used to it. But when I’m ill or they are I need him to step up more and it’s 50/50 if he will or not. Recently the baby has started waking around 1/2am she used to sleep through, she’s 8m but cutting her first 2 teeth. He instantly jumps to she’s hungry and that if I can’t settle her I’m letting her starve. Sometimes I feel like I feed her just to shut him up because she’ll drink an ounce and be done. It’s usually about an hour before she’s due or as I said that 1-2am. This has been an issue for years and I don’t know how to get him out of this cycle where whenever a baby cries it means they’re hungry. Tonight she’s cried and cried non stop and I asked for help and he ignored me so she cried while I made a bottle thinking maybe it would soothe her. Which it didn’t and just started a shouting match because I was “leaving her to cry” when really I’d never do that it goes against my nature and he just had better things to do than settle his child. Just needed a rant really. Now she’s just overtired and won’t settle at all!
Like
Share Mobile
Share
  • Share

Show your support

So he’s a lazy dad? I’ll be real if my partner treated me this I don’t think I’d stay with him! He should help a lot more it’s sad really because us moms go through enough on a daily! I don’t mean this in a harsh way but maybe he’s gotten away with being lazy for too long you need to put your foot down and tell him some home truths about himself and then maybe he’ll start stepping up! you deserve better though ❤️

It sounds like you're doing an incredible job as a mum, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you asking your partner for support/ expressing your needs. It’s unfortunate that people still have outdated views on baby care! 😌 Do you have support from family at all? It can really make a difference. It’s possible that baby might sense the tension too. Once baby’s basic needs are met, it might help for mum to take a moment for fresh air/ clarity. Sometimes gentle music or heartbeat sounds can be soothing for both baby (and maybe even you too). Just know that you are not alone- sending positive vibes 💖

Read more on Peanut
Trending in our community