Sex issue. Help!

I am almost 11 months post partum exclusively breastfeeding first time mum. Whenever my husband try to have sex with me with little or no foreplay i dont wanna do it. Actually even when he does foreplay i dont wanna do it. If he bites me lightly instead being turn on(i used to like it) i just wanna punch him in the face, scream and again punch him in his nuts! I get so angry that i almost see red. I get my high just handful number of times, is this can be reason of me getting frustrated from sex? I dont know what to do? Is there something wrong with me? I do love my husband but when it comes to sex i just wanna scream at tge top of my lungs and just go violent on him! I posted this on other group too.

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Perfectly normal. You've gone from being your own person, to being completely touched out by a little human. I know full well it's the last thing I want as I've had a baby hanging off me all day, when he's asleep I just want some downtime with no one in my space. Contraceptions etc can also play a massive part in low libido x

nothing is wrong! i’m 2 months postpartum and the first time i had sex it hurt still so i stopped and the second time recently i was just not into it (i thought i made me known i was not into it before anything really happened but hey). BFing can cause libido to be low and i think cause they don’t understand, it just makes it worse! how is he with other intimate things? kissing? cuddling? start there maybe?

He's probably not stimulating you mentally. For women, we must be stimulated mentally to be turned on physically. Is he helping enough, listening to your needs, doing his part enough with baby or house. My partner doesnt, too selfish. I never want to have sex anymore. Not one little bit. Sometimes I force my self to keep the peace and I hate every second of it. Truth. I do breastfeed too exclusively, 10 month old and 2 year old.

Yes totally normal My kid is 3 and I still feel like that! I'm really struggling with it. I have been told that once a woman had kids her focus shifts from making kids to protecting and nurturing kids. So you are just not that much into it anymore. Your focus has completely changed.

I found after having my daughter I liked completely different things when it came to sex. Talk to him and tell him how you’re feeling, and then he might begin to understand. It’s super hard post partum cause you’re literally going through so many changes again!!

Your hormones are all over the place. It takes approx 2 years for them to calm down. I found, after my daughter was born, my likes and dislikes changed. This could be the case with you. Give yourself a break and some time to work things out. I would suggest also communicating with your partner so he doesn't think that you don't want him anymore. Having a baby is hard on a relationship so you both need to work through your new roles

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