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Feeling lonely

I'm sure I'm not the only one... I don't have many friends in the area, though I'm trying to meet people through pregnancy yoga and antenatal classes. But what's bothering me the most is my relationship with my partner. He's always been very loving and attentive but pregnancy has really thrown him off. I think I expected him to be a lot more engaged with the baby, it took us a long time to get here. Instead I see that he even when he touches my belly or does things for me, it's almost like he has to remind himself that he should. Our sex life is pretty much dead, he isolates himself in his hobbies and I can't help but feel lonely, especially when other women talk about how excited their husbands are. I'm sure he is, and it might feel real when the baby is here. But I'm not feeling supported while all of this is literally on my shoulders. Anyone else going through this?

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I can relate, I don't really have any local friends that have kids or who are pregnant and my partner doesn't act very excited or interested but I think it is different for a lot of guys and they only feel truly connected once the baby is born as we can feel the baby moving in our stomachs but they don't get that. Just try and express how you feel, my partner tends to try abit harder when he knows I'm fed up. I think just keep being persistent with going to different classes and I'm sure you'll meet more people. Having a baby forces you to get out more and do more activities ☺️🥰

Ahh hun, I’m sending love your way!! I honestly think men and women view and experience pregnancy so so differently, I think sometimes they feel a bit distant from it cos it’s not actually physically happening to them!! My partner is older and has 2 teenage girls already, so he’s defo less interested than he would be first time round, but I’ve just asked him to at least listen to my excitement and validate it, I ask for belly rubs sometimes and tell him to say hello to the bump 🤣🤣🤣 I think men are just different creatures to us women!! I also don’t think it helps that our hormones are everywhere, and I don’t know about you, but I defo feel more “needy” that I normally would do, which I’ve explained to him! Hopefully a good honest chat with him might help! Sending love xxxx

My husband was like this our first pregnancy I just think until the baby was there he just really couldn’t get invested and he’s been like that to a certain extent this time round too. He is however the most hands on fantastic dad I just think sometimes they process it differently. Have you had a chat with him About how you’re feeling? X

Thanks everyone! I've spoken to him more than once, and he does make an effort afterwards but, maybe irrationally, I wished this didn't require an "effort" and that he'd be able to be truly excited! I know that he's doing his best and I'm sure that he'll be hands on once the baby arrives but I can't help being disappointed and resentful. I think the insomnia is not helping me either, the middle of time gives me too much time to brew on this 😅