First time Mum feeling super overwhelmed!? HELP!!!

Gripe water, shushing, swinging, swaddling, super baby pose. Those are the ones I can think of that worked my lo. This is very normal. I found super baby pose worked the best for my babe and I just kept her like that for a while till she either fell asleep or relaxed

You will learn your baby. Just try all the strategies.

It might be comforting to explore the possibility of baby chiropractors or gentle massages to help ease any tension and promote a sense of well-being for both of them during this transition.

The only times I’ve been unable to settle my son is when he has trapped gas! But you’ll notice through their cry’s as it’s different when they’re in pain/discomfort. Sometimes it’s easier for the dad to settle them because they don’t get as stressed out as us, especially if we’ve been spending most of the day with them . You will figure it out dw, you’re doing the best you can🤍

My baby was like that around 2 months. I started looking into different baby cries there's a few videos online that demonstrate different cry sounds and what they generally mean. It was helpful for a start for me. While my baby didn't feel like she had wind and wouldn't bring anything out when burped it seeped like a trapped gas issue and we tried infacol which did nothing and then infants friend medicine which was a lifesaver!. Of course your baby could be and probably is something completely different but for mine I had a few days where I didn't drink milk and she got better and then when I drank it again it started again so I realised she had some form of intolerance to it and changing to oat milk helped me. Like I said probably different situation but could be worth a shot if you're running out of ideas In terms of settling for dad, it's common but she doesn't hate you. Men are warmer and have a stronger and slower heartbeat which helps soothe them. Plus you're stressed and your baby can feel this

My baby was the same way when he was a newborn he would only settle with my husband, and I felt awful because I couldn’t calm him down no matter what I did. I seriously started to feel like a bad mom. Turns out he had silent reflux and a cow’s milk protein allergy, which explained all the crying and discomfort. Once we figured that out, things got so much better. If your baby’s crying a lot and nothing seems to help, definitely check in with your pediatrician. it might be something like that going on.

Is she teething? It might seem early but they can start from 2-3 months. If she has her hand in her mouth a lot and drools a lot, it could be that. My baby is 11 weeks and since she started teething she's been much clingier towards me, sometimes my partner will just not be able to settle her at all and then as soon as she's in my arms she's happier. Maybe that's the same with your baby but just clingier towards dad rather than mom? It will pass, and she does love you. Have you spoke to your health visitor about these feelings? Please do, and maybe see if they can offer you VIG (video interaction guidance) to help you see the ways you do have a positive bond with your daughter and that she does love you

Lots of advice given, but may cause you more anxiety. Please speak to gp and health providers. Your mental state is the most important thing!

Thank you everyone for your advice, we ended up taking her to drs they recommended infacol and it’s worked wonders, she is like a different baby 🥰