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She is probably getting stressed with you letting all of these random people hold her. Babies need their mom in the first year of their life and not really anyone else. If my partner left for TWO MONTHS after my baby was born, they would never be my partner ever again. How can you trust someone like that? She is probably stressed from all of these random people wanting to grab her and a sudden change to her environment.
@Kassia I disagree - it’s so important for babies to be held by others. It makes for a content baby that always knows they go back to their mum. Don’t be that person that is glue for your child sake! It’s important for them to form bonds with grandparents and to feel safe. Admittedly in this situation the “father” or merely the sperm doner is a waste of time and a constant flight risk so the above probably shouldn’t apply!!!
Socialisation only matters really and truly after 3 years old. There’s been quite a few studies on it. Society tells us/pressures us to push our children into these situations with other people/babies to ‘socialise’ it’s not something to worry about at this stage. I used to be a nursery manager, parents would ask all the time who their child’s ‘friends’ are.. babies really tend to form friendships and true interactions later on. Those early years are so important and little one just needs comfort from main carers at this stage, and other interactions are a bonus and doesn’t need to be pressured x Baby doesn’t hate your mum, like previously said on here- just no one can replace mummy right now :) and that’s fine !
@Francesca I didn’t say that. I said his family specifically! They pop out of nowhere and I BET they want to hold the baby, even when she cries. If you allow people to hold your baby, even if they are distressed, then that creates insecurity. I’m talking about letting people hold your baby simply because they think they have a right to do so. I don’t care who holds my baby, as long as she is fine by it. Howeverrrr as soon as she cries, then I take her, no matter who has her (besides her dad who has always been very hands-on and present). She’s 15mo now and independent and chill. I let her know she can count on me to protect her. What I said is based on her situation, specifically. Which, it sounds like you agree with me, based on what you’re saying about the father. LOL.
@Kassia yes totally agree!
It’s probably nothing to do with your mum more so a phase where she just wants her mummy and nobody can replace that need 🥰 Keep your guard up with letting your boyfriend and his family waltz back in considering what he did was pathetic and cowardly. Your mum and you are rocks for they baby anyone else can come and go