What TF am I doing wrong???

I'm about to have a complete mental breakdown. My boys 4 and 2 have been TERRIBLE recently. I mean not listening no matter how many times I repeat myself or rephrase or try to redirect, NOTHING. They constantly do things that could get them seriously injured no matter how many times I tell them not to. They're fighting literally everything and whining/screaming about everything. I don't know where the hell this came from and it's making me absolutely hate it here because it's all day every day. I get no break from it. I feel like I'm failing and a truly terrible mother. I keep trying to tell myself it's because I'm due within 6 weeks. But if things stay this way, I don't know how I'm going to handle a newborn and them. They're just pushing every boundary and every button they possibly can and I'm scared it's going to get them seriously injured or worse. We have no support system, so it's just my husband and I. We're exhausted already and I feel like I'm drowning. I feel like we're going to be way in over our head with this new baby...

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First of all, YOU GOT THIS! I try to be a very straightforward mom with my 4 yo boy whos now very energetic and at times testing limits. I found that being firm and direct is the best approach, he learned quickly that I don’t repeat myself so if he does something “bad” or misbehave a second time, thats it. He will lose a privilege/ that activity will be over/ we’re going home. Every kid is a kid but this approach works for us. Stay strong, dear 🫶🏻

@Helena we do that or at least try to 🥲 both of them will pretty much ignore me whenever I threathen to take something away if they're not listening.. im about to the point of taking away all their toys, their 30 minute tablet time, literally all of it to get the point across. I feel like I have 0 control because no discipline works.. I've never needed a bigger break in my life 😩

Hopefully its just a phase, and take the toys and table if needed. Let them cry, if thats what it will take for them to learn it will be worth it. Maybe it could be that the new baby is coming and they’re sensing it?

I’m watching a toddler specialist on this stuff because I have a two year old boy. It’s all about being a leader and not repeating yourself. Also they say take away things and don’t yell. Also I’m realizing with boys you have to keep them busy or they get into things that can get them in trouble. Rotate toys etc.

Boys have to know when you say something you mean it. Or they will tune you out.

Watch Lisa Bunnage Parenting Coach she has great tips

You have to put in consequences and take away privileges such as no desert tonight, no tv time, staying in their room for the evening like be very tough on them with this and you need to be consistent with both of them - never threaten a consequence that you can’t actually follow through with otherwise they lose all respect for you and know you’re not actually going to do it!

Can you get them into nursery

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