Selfish?

You’re not wrong. That’s not fair.

You could end up with 4/5/6 boys so how many are you willing to have ?

The feelings you have are real, and they're not wrong. It's a real conversation you'll want to have with him because there's always a chance you have another boy, and theres a chance even if it is a girl that he grows resentment towards you or even worse that child. I don't know your age, but is there a chance that time could make the difference, or maybe you are running out of time. There may be a way to compromise with him, but he could also feel like parenting one more might be too much.

I'm 32 and pregnant with my 4th. This one was not expected and a huge surprise as I just had my youngest last January. I have 3 boys already, and this one is also another boy. So I'll have 4 in total. I was really hoping this one would be a girl and was a bit down when I found out it wasn't. I got asked if I would try again to get my girl, but I know I'm done. There's a chance I'd end up with 5 boys, and I'm not wanting to do that. However, that's me personally

@Rosie he said the same thing, which made me feel a bit off and selfish for the resentment. I've had 2 C-sections and lost a tube due to an ectopic, plus with age.. it'll become a little harder in the future to become pregnant (safely). I'm willing to try the fourth time.. after that I think that I would have to throw in the cards.

In my very personal opinion, having kids should be taken extremely seriously, it's a new life that you are going to take care of, fed, house and be available emotionally and physically for. You could end up having more boys and then finding yourself struggling to get through it and accept it. Also, your husband would be responsible for all of the above too. I will take his opinion in consideration, otherwise he can resent you if he feels pressured to have more babies, the marriage can be hurt.

I am the 1st of 4 daughters, my parents really wanted a boy that never happened. Nowadays they have boys grandkids and are the happiest grandparents in town 💕

Your feelings are valid. And so are his. Having kids is serious. And as others have said above, you could end up with another boy. I understand this situation is hard though. No one wins.

Selfish? No. No one can tell you how you feel. Currently pregnant with so many hormones and emotions raging through your body? Yes! In my opinion, this is a conversation you should have after you give birth and settle into life with 3 kiddos. Can you handle a fourth? Does it make sense for your family as a whole? All questions you'd have difficulty answering today because you don't even know what having 3 kiddos is like yet. Give yourself and your body time

Your feelings are valid, but forcing another child when he doesn't want another could cause issues of resentment toward you or even the child. And on top of all of that, you may end up with another boy and the disappointment could be even greater. This is definitely a hard situation though.

Thank you everyone, this definitely helped me a bit ❤️

Yall both have different idea on a complete family. For you it’s only complete if you have a girl but for you husband this last child is his complete family. To him yall are great family with this child . You’re feeling are not wrong but neither is his. I seen family keep trying till they have 5 girls and no sons.do you know how many kids you want? Are you financially stable to support these kids ? I don’t mean the bare minimum but like college fund supporting their dreams and book fair money? How many kids can you have and safely say “ I can send them to college/or help them with their career. As long as they get scholarships for some cost” I would think about this for a moment and than bring it up again to your husband and if you can say this than tell him that y’all are financially able to support one more child and after this we can stop trying. Hopefully it will convince him but it may not either cause again his comfortability maybe different . Good luck

You could be like my mom who had 5 boys and her 6th was me a girl! Lol

Try fostering or adopting a little girl doesn’t mean you have to give up all together u maybe just have to go about it a different way that’s all.

If you don't have a girl, maybe there is a girl in your life (a sibling's or friend's child) that you can have some fun with and do some of the "girl" stuff you were hoping to do one day. Get her cute outfits. Have princess tea. Maybe you can even swap some babysitting for your sons. Short version....please come over and play Barbies with my daughter. Your expertise is needed, even if it's not under your own roof. 🙂

I don't think it's fair to be resentful of your husband here at all. It's not his fault that you have all boys, for some people that's just the way things go, and that's fine! You can't expect him to agree to a 4th child JUST because you want a girl, which you may not end up having anyway! A friend of mine had like 5 boys before she got a girl!