in March 2025 Babies 🇬🇧

Frustrated

Earlier in the week, my partners step mum came to visit us. When she arrived (lives about 2 hours away) she let it drop that she’s feeling a bit rough and had a cold. The original plan was to take a walk to get some food after spending some time at our house for her to play with our toddler and spend some time with the baby. After realising she was ill I decided we would leave pretty much straight away so we’re all outside and reduce the chance of catching anything. Both me and my partner made it clear a number of times she needs to keep away from our toddler as if he catches it, it’s certain he’ll pass it to the baby. We had to continue to remind her and then whilst I nipped to the toilet and my partner was sorting the newborn he catches her sharing her drink with our toddler. Prompting another reminder with a full rant/ explanation about the consequences of this. I messaged her the next day to check how she was and hoping she was feeling a lot better and we would have less to worry about. She said she felt terrible, she’s had 3 days off work and couldn’t move from the sofa got 2 days and it actually feels more like flu. Of course, 2 days after she left. Toddler is ill, the following day my baby is coughing and sneezing and now I’m feeling rough. Regretting not just turning her away immediately but after she drove all that way it felt like we were left with no choice. We had just started to get our newborn more settled again after a rough week as his formula has had to be changed whilst he’s being checked for cmpa. Now he’s up throughout the night constantly, struggling to breath whenever he’s laid flat on his back.

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I’d be fuming!!! I argued with my MIL this week too for turning up with a sore throat and no voice! She left within 5 mins as I told her she wasn’t allowed to hold baby and I feel uncomfortable her being there! (She offered to do jobs). She’s been in a mood with me all week!! Grand parents think they’re fuking entitled!! Pisses me off

@hannah they really do. She asked how we were and I told her we basically all have it and her only response was “🫣” just the one emoji nothing else. Her usual messages are like essays where I would tend to set time aside to read and reply to. We since haven’t heard anything else from her. This isn’t even the first time she’s done something like this. When my first born was a couple of months old she was ill and decided to blow raspberries on his face. I was mortified, luckily my partner jumped in and stopped it immediately but I was just so shocked.

Have you made it clear that it’s a boundary of yours.? We’re over my MILs house tomorrow for food and she’s texted tonight to say everyone’s well for tomorrow’s gathering. She’s taken the hint as I was very clear under no circumstances can anyone be ill around the baby. My partner also had a chat with her and made it clear it wasn’t nothing against her but a rule for everyone xx

It was made clear after the incident with the first born. The week before this happened, we did tell them how we cancelled plans with our other friends as they both had colds and explained that we had cancelled and the reasons why we cancelled and how we didn’t want anyone sick around the newborn. We told her that 5 days before she turned up ill to ours so I would say our feelings on it were very clear. My partner did speak to his dad after to reiterate it again for future visits. We had a few family member so on holiday just before and some just after he was born too and had said they couldn’t visit for a few days to make sure they hadn’t caught anything on the flight. She was also aware of us doing this and the reasons behind it so I’m pretty confident she did know we wouldn’t want her coming around so I don’t really know why she did it lol x

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