4 year old tantrums

Hello everyone! I am having a real challenge with a 4yo daughter and her tantrums. For background, I am a single mum, with a boyfriend (we do not live together). She sees her dad on and off at the moment as he has had a baby with his new partner. The anger has worsened in the last few weeks, and she will now outwardly punch and scream tantrums anywhere. I try my best to ground things and try and calm the situation but it seems to be getting worse. Within this, she has started to call me stupid, lazy, greedy, and this is apparently what her dad is saying to her about me when she is there. Does anyone have any advice on this - or has anyone gone through similar? Thank you ♥️

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I've recently come out the other side of the ferocious 4's. You need to set consistant boundaries & follow through on the consequences. Please try not to worry, you will get to the other side of this phase & its good that you are able to keep your cool & be calm during these. Sending hugs🤗 I know how tough this time can be x

Thank you ❤️ How long did it last for? (If it's a year, please lie and say 2 months 🤣) Did you notice any patterns on when / why it happened?x

I found it to be a mixture of needing/wanting attention & a way of my daughter expressing her emotions. My husband & I had put it down to having a 2nd child but, when I spoke to my daughters teacher about it. She'd encouted the same issues with her only child. So I wonder if its a boundary testing/independence behavioural development thing as well. I found that there was a peak in the behaviour & started to improve. Maybe it lasted about 6months?🤷🏼‍♀️ Since my daughter turned 5, I still have similar behaviours every now & again but its short lived. I've restricted my daughters sugar intake & screen time (not that she had that much to begin with). As well as trying to get her outdoors to play a lot more, it all seems to help.

Thank you for replying. I really appreciate your help ♥️

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