Hi

I'm a serial overthinker okay, just starting with that 🤣😩 My FIL seems to have a running "joke" that I do nothing - at work, around the house, for the kids, for the husband. I work 4 days a week (recently dropped from full time because struggling). Yes I struggle to keep on top of housework 100% - I have three young children though and I work? Example comments - I was talking to my MIL about takeaways and how I haven't been enjoying them lately, FIL goes "maybe you should get off your fat arse and cook more often then". I asked my husband where his mum got their canopy thing from in their garden, he said his shop (he works at the range) and I said oh can you get one for us then, and my FIL goes "I don't think you should, have you seen the state of your garden?" - it needs weeding and God forbid has lots of children's outdoor toys out there. Regularly tells me to make brews or do the dishes at their house "since I don't do anything else anyway" - i just laugh and more importantly don't follow his demands. I don't know what it is? Like just what? My husband just goes oh he's only joking, every time I bring it up. But it's not a joke to me? I struggle massively, I've had PND after every child which sometimes I still feel like I'm in which affects my executive functioning and energy levels. I work from home so yes not a laborious job but I still work hard and provide financially for my family? No I don't take the kids out as often as I should (by myself) but we car share, my husband takes it to work and there is nowhere nice to take them within walking distance. Everytime he tells me I should do this, or do that, I just say well maybe your son should do it/help me out more. I'm just sick of it and then I overthink it. As I'm even typing this out, am I just lazy and making excuses or what? I DONT KNOW.