Part of the reason
Part of the reason I didn’t want my teen daughter dating. She was dating a boy well over a year ago for a couple months. She is now in a new relationship for the last 8 months and the boy cant handle it and I’m kind of at a loss what to do. He pops in using different phone numbers to talk crap about the new boyfriend and calls him his “light work.” Has friends texting my daughter. Has girls texting the new boyfriend to try and hurt her. Then he’ll stop for a couple months and pop back in. Like a reminder he’s there. He’s 16 so I don’t necessarily want to ruin this kid’s life but I’m ready to attack at this point. It causes my daughter severe anxiety. And quite frankly the stalker behavior unnerves me. He’s being and has been raised by grandma who clearly can’t control him. Wwyd?
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it’s not just texting, it’s snap chat, Instagram, tik tok, Facebook. Any way he can find to get a hold of her. And when she blocks him he makes new profiles or has friends do it. But yes we are going to do that as well.
I’d honestly msg him and say if you don’t stop I’ll be round your house talking to your gran or failing that the police will be involved. They don’t like it when parents get involved and know what shit they’re doing
I want to do that, I truly do. That was my first thought. To message him and let him know if he continues to reach out to my daughter or have others reach out for him there will be consequences started with 1. Going to your house and speaking to your grandmother and if that doesn’t work 2. Going to the police station. But I’m not sure if that behavior is condoned. At the end of the day I am an adult and he is a child.
that’s the problem, he doesn’t even live in this town. When they were dating he would bike here 7 miles and back. That was my first red flag. I never liked him one bit.
I understand that but he’s old enough to know right from wrong and his actions must have consequences
since she’s young this is a lesson she has to learn about being careful with what type of people you date/let in ur life. this experience will serve her well trust me and she will be able to see the same characteristics this stalker boy has in others and can learn from this experience to be careful with those types of people. talking to the grandma will do nothing trust me eventually he will get tired of it and let up but it’s a great lesson for ur daughter
When I was a teenager we got the police involved in a similar situation (no social media back then!). They went round and gave him a talking to and he backed off. He didn’t get a criminal record so his life wasn’t ruined and he left me alone after that.
Document every single attempt at communication. She needs to let everyone in her circle know she doesn’t want to speak with him at all anymore. I would not reach out to him or the grandmother and definitely make sure she does not reach out or respond to him at all.
I would file a report and begin your paper trail of documentation. The more that you can add the more likely the police will take this matter seriously. Have you alerted the administration at the school?
Definitely report this to the police. He is stalking and harassing your daughter, and if his behaviour isn't addressed, he could do worse down the road.
I'd also be concerned about the other people blindly bullying and harassing her as well. Their behaviour also needs to be nipped in the bud.
Report, report, report.
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