Accidentally let my baby cry it out

I’m feeling terrible gang. Not looking for judgment because I guarantee that I’m already saying really unkind things to myself. There’s nothing you can say that would make me feel worse than I do atm. I was so determined to not implement Ferber or any type of CIO with my baby but I don’t know what happened. I put the baby to sleep in his Moses basket and normally I put the monitor on full volume next to my head if I need to have a quick nap. Well it turns out I didn’t charge it properly and woke up 2 hours later in a panic to my baby whimpering really softly and sadly in his bassinet. I am mortified. I still have no idea how long he had been crying. Could have been over an hour. Now that I really think about it, I think I half woke up when he first started crying but I must have been so exhausted because I fell back asleep. Couldn’t tell you how long he had been going. I picked him up as soon as I realised and he stopped crying immediately and I fed and changed him. I just held him and sobbed. He had tears all over his face and I was so heartbroken and angry at myself. He’s fine now I think. But god, if you heard how sad and hoarse he sounded. Feel like the worst mum. He’s only 11 weeks. Yeah that’s it. Just wanted to vent.

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Just know you’re the BEST Mum for feeling the way you do. These things happen. The great thing is you’ll now double check that charge every time and never do it again. Don’t dwell on it. You’re his WORLD. I know I would have felt the exact same and this can be hard to do but, be kind to yourself. 😚🫶

You love him and he knows you do!

You needed that nap mama! Your baby is ok, you went to him as soon as you heard him and comforted him. You are a GREAT mom! Give yourself some grace and compassion. Moms need comforting too 💛

I would have felt THE EXACT SAME WAY you did nothing wrong. It was an accident. I’m glad he was safe in his crib and didn’t fall off something and was harmed. Your doing the best you can(:

Awe. So sad! But you know what? You probably just needed that nap so bad for you to sleep like that. Honestly. He survived. He will be ok and I’m sure he’s forgotten by now.

I’m so sorry! It happened once that both my husband and I slept through all the notifications on our video monitor and the baby had been crying for nearly two hours 😭 We must have been so exhausted and sleep deprived that we were in too deep a sleep to wake up. We both felt terrible about it and we changed some notification settings afterwards. What I like to believe is our babies know our intent. Our fussing and apologizing afterwards (and the fact that it’s never happened again) showed him that our intention is to come when he cries and with the exception of that event, we always do. Without a pattern, there’s no abandonment, and your little one knows you usually come when he needs you. I hope you feel better about it with time. ❤️

Aww I’m so sorry this happened! I would have felt the same. Your feelings are so valid. Your body needed that reset and your baby was very safe. He knows you love him!!

It was not intentional! We make mistakes, but that’s what makes us better. Now you’ll know to double check to make sure it charged properly and that’s something so small to fix. Baby was safe and so happy to see mama coming to rescue ❤️. All we can do is learn and move on. I know how heavy your heart is from this and I know how you feel. You didn’t mean it and by seeing how much this hurt you, you’ll do everything in your power to make sure it doesn’t happen again. You’re amazing and your little guy is so lucky to have you ✨

The fact that you even feel the way you do just shows how awesome of a mother you are. Your body clearly needed the rest and he was safe 💗

Bless you, these things happen mama, you clearly care so much and love your baby. I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t be too hard on yourself. Baby has probably already forgotten and won’t remember! Try to give yourself some grace, you’re doing an amazing job 💕

You are soooo much to your baby than that one incident. You are every kiss, every cuddle, everytime you comfort him after every tear. You show up for him every day in every single way. It is upsetting and I would sob too but remember that they see you as so much more than that one moment. You show your love in every little way and that's what they will take in and remember and feel ❤️