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I’m in the same tranches babydoll! My son is 5 weeks as well and I’ve been struggling the last week and a half my bf is gone most the time so doing this alone has felt like I’m being punished.. I keep telling myself it gets better.. I’ve had to take a step back regroup and give myself a little grace as a mom over 40 and haven’t done this in a little over 17 years is like starting all over again.. I’ve started reading a book “moms on call” I highly recommend!! Consistency is KEY! Sending you lots of hugs!
Hate to say it this why but cosleeping is great! My 2nd and now 3rd cosleep. My 2nd is the best Sleeper ever and has been since we slept trained him at 4 months. You have a newborn they are supposed to need contact and closeness. Nothing wrong with that! It helps regulate them! Cosleeping doesn't mean you are stuck with that forever. You aren't spoiling them. You are making them feel safe!
@Katie thank you! It feels good to know I’m not the only one out there. I feel like social media has just given me this false sense of what newborn life is like. So it’s been really hard
@Candy thank you! I will have to give that book a try.
@Chelsea this is the only way he gets any sort of good sleep for us. I know people have their opinions but we really did try everything and my husband and I barely were able to sleep. I hope someday to get him in the bassinet but right now we are just trying to do what we can.
@Lyrica I know. It's hard. How is feeding going? How is the sleep pattern. Are you getting any log. Stretches? Sleeping more during the day and not night?
@Chelsea feeding has been okay other than he wants to eat almost all day. Only break really is at night. Though he seems to sometimes get frustrated with breastfeeding now where he pulls off the boob and will start to cry. I can’t figure out why as we have had an easy breastfeeding journey up until last week. No long sleep stretches really I think longest is 2 hours. He sleeps a lot during the night now I would say which has been nice but it’s not for very long
Even though the safest way is alone on back in crib, there are safe ways to cosleep. Some babies need to be held a lot and others don't. For the first few weeks, my baby would sleep on our chests. I would wear a wrap just to make sure she wouldn't roll off my chest. It was the only way she would get some sleep. They have been cramped up, constantly fed, and listening to our heart beat until they were born. Being held is the closest they get to that. They need time to acclimate to the world and realize it's safe to not be held. Also, they don't realize they are not a part of mom until a few months old. You're doing great! Do what works best for you and baby. Eventually baby will sleep alone.
@Lyrica he having good a amount of pee and poop diapers? Does he burp well? Could be a gas thing.
Bassinet is holding clothes now lol & my husband is sleeping on the couch while my 6wk baby sleeps next to me 🫠🫠 (I was against cosleep)
@Kat my husband is also on the couch till I can move baby out
Look into safe sleep 7 for cosleeping. It has saved me as i struggle with this too. My baby has reflux which will cause him to be more fussy and move around alot especially when he is set down in a bassinet. Swaddles help a lot, but also he moves around less when we co sleep and in turn makes his reflux better. It doesn't matter if I hold him upright for 1 hour after feeding, he will spit up even 3 hours after and that's reflux. It is also considered normal but there's meds to help with the pain of the reflux. Babies change so much from one week to the next so hang in there! Also try using a baby wrap to do chores with babe on you. Give yourself grace and sometimes it's okay to leave the mess for another day.
It’s possible your baby is having a hard time intaking enough during breastfeeding and that could be leading to shorter naps and the clinginess. Have you seen a lactation specialist? Mine will weigh baby before and after a feed so I can see if they’re intaking enough/better. My baby has had so much breastfeeding trouble that we’ve primarily switched to pumping and bottle- if you go that route even just to try it might help a lot with their sleep windows increasing and working on holding less 💛
@Jess I actually have an appointment next week since we have been having new issues of him yanking himself off the boob then getting upset. Hoping to gain some insight!
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@Elesha thank you I appreciate the kind words
You’re not alone! My baby used to sleep in the bassinet and we now cosleep just so I can get some sleep before the toddler wakes up. I am going full out and forcing her in the crib more so she barely naps but I’m hoping to get her in the crib tonight. My girl cluster feeds in the day but then will give me 3-4 hour stretches at night so I let it happen and just struggle during the day