What do I do?

I'd be so mad too! He needs to make sure your son has eaten "real" food!

Playing devils advocate here- most men are not natural “nurturers” and have a harder time with caregiving tasks. Not making excuses for his effort but could he just be lacking confidence in how/ what to feed your son? As a first time mom, it’s hard for me to make sure I’m feeding my son a variety and the right amounts! He was a champion breast feeder but didn’t do great with solids up until about a month or two ago even though we started introducing at 6 months. To help him and your son be successful, could you give him a feeding schedule of sorts with what you would like him to try to eat throughout the day? Send him articles to read about 12-18 month old feeding/ nutrition requirements so he can educate himself? Again, not saying this load should fall on you but maybe could give him the push he needs to take initiative with feeding. If you set him up for success and he still is not able to help feed your son then you can revisit the conversation and take more steps. ❤️

They also say “food before 1 is just for fun” if baby is breastfeeding appropriately and your pediatrician is not concerned then your son is fine! Just needs more exposure to foods now that he’s older. This coming from a mama with a nicu baby who left the hospital at 1%< for weight. He steadily gained exclusively breastfeeding and minimal food up until 11/12 months because he wasn’t a good eater, but is now about 27th% and perfectly healthy. I literally just sent these to my husband just to help keep us both informed and on the same page! https://myplate-prod.azureedge.us/sites/default/files/2023-04/800-calories-ages-12-23-months.pdf

It's okay that your baby isn't eating a lot of "real" food yet, but he needs to be given the opportunity so that he can learn! Your husband will he surprised how fast he will learn to eat and like food!!

My son who is almost 3yo was like this. He didn't really start eating eating until about 18 months. He just preferred milk. He'd take bites here and there. My daughter who is almost 14 months is a eater. I was shocked. She doesn't even want milk very often anymore. So I think it definitely depends on the baby. But agreed I'd have a talk with your husband and maybe work together on a eating schedule. You all can make some sort of little meals together that way they are ready to go. If he eats 3 bites it's fine as long as he's trying. Just don't stress too much about it. I also had no idea ehat babies eat with my son lol now they eat what I eat and it's a lot easier.

Just another resource with food/ serving size suggestions 🙂 https://healthyeatingresearch.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/What-to-feed-12-24-month-olds.pdf

Thank you for asking this because I am struggling with the same and there seems to always be and excuse as to why he didn’t offer her anything.. it’s frustrating but this comment section is great! Thank you all the tips!

Asked heal baby care app and sharing in case it helps: "It sounds like you're feeling overwhelmed and frustrated, which is completely understandable given your son's eating challenges and your husband's mood. First, it's important to focus on creating a positive mealtime environment. Try offering a variety of foods without pressure, as this can help reduce anxiety around eating for both you and your son. Secondly, consider involving your husband in the process by encouraging him to explore different foods with your son, making it a fun experience rather than a stressful one. It's also normal for some children to be picky eaters, especially at this age, but if you're concerned about your son's weight, keeping a close eye on his growth and discussing it with a healthcare provider can be helpful. You're not alone in this, and it's okay to feel anxious; parenting can be challenging. How does your son typically respond to new foods, and have there been any foods he seems to enjoy?