Feeling conflicted with fiancé

So I started doordashing yesterday morning, today I did it as well and came back later than usual now he’s accusing me of hating him and not wanting to be around him ???? I told him before hand I had a goal to make and I didn’t realize my last dash was so far away. Then he started saying that why did I make a lot yesterday but not today , that it’s weird and it sounds like I’m lying behind his back about something. But if anyone has dashed before, different days and times can affect how much orders you can possibly get. He went off on me saying that I don’t like him anymore and don’t want to be around him because I came home late which I don’t understand. Mind you this is my second day dashing and the first time I came back a little later. I only go any time between 10am -4. I told him mid doordashing that I’d pick him up to come with me so we could be together and he said he didn’t want to go. So how is this an issue when I offered . Btw I’m a SAHM and want to provide some kind of money. Then he starts talking about lack of sex but we haven’t had sex in about a week. He keeps inviting my little sisters to stay over and also it’s hard with the baby to keep up . But it doesn’t seem like he understands that. I told him I can’t have sex if she’s awake and active because she needs attention and I’m not going to let her sit there and cry just for me to have a good time. He said if I really wanted it I’d find some way to make it work. It’s just a bit agitating how it’s my second day dashing and he just randomly started accusing me of lying to him and saying I’m neglecting him. And he only started talking about the sex issue along with how he felt about be being a bit late . I did apologize for being late and said I’d try to be earlier tomorrow but asked him to apologize for talking to me the way he did because he was slamming doors and accusing me of lying about doordashing. Thoughts ?

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Men 🙄🙄 I swear as soon as a SAHM starts making their own kind of money it’s a PROBLEM to them and like to throw anything at you. Don’t let him make you feel bad about what you’re doing. If he doesn’t believe you then that show he feels about you. You keep doing your own money and safe up on the side in case of anything goes wrong. Sounds to me that he’s a bit insecure. Don’t let no man control you.

I think he’s being a dick tbh, he doesn’t need to be so sensitive over you being late. you’re trying to provide for your family and help out a little WHILE being a full time mom. he should really be more understanding. and honestly I hate when guys get sensitive about sex, women’s drives are effected by SO MANY things, you’re gunna have random off weeks😂

@Kamree I feel the same about sex. It honestly isn’t in my books most times because I’m busy with the baby and school i don’t even think about it much

He sounds either really controlling or really insecure. Or both. I don’t have much advice for you but I feel you on having a full schedule and him being constantly pushy for sex or anything intimate. My fiancés that way, it’s always a ‘convenient for him’ situation.

@Kloey yea . I don’t think they grasp the fact that we deal with everything else . Just for them to slap on the btw lets have sec

exaclty. not to mention just all the hormones from having a baby + then (at least in my case) the birth control afterwards, AND your daily life, your drive is going to be out of whack

For me I always tell my man like hell no back off because for you men is soooo easy to stick and be done and we go back to normal not even like an emotional loving connection at times. Sometimes depending how they act makes us not even wanna have sex.

@Kamree yea the birth control has at me as well. I feel like for me being a SAHM I’m the head of household non-monetarily. I have to take care of everything at home and set everything up for us and get stuff done. He usually just tells me about stuff I lack on 🥲 like the sex issue or that I don’t appreciate him for what he does. Kinda breaks my neck especially when I do most of the stuff but he tells me I’m still falling behind on stuff

@Rosy honestly I’m the same like “not rn I’m busy” kinda thing but but they’re so persistent. I don’t feel a drive to be sexual but more so intimate like spending time with each other and things that don’t require intercourse to show the love

Yeah I feel you! For me I feel like ever since I had my baby it’s not the same.🫠 I can go months without it haha 🤣

@Rosy heavy on the way they act cause they start asking for sex right after they do something 😭 like sir we just had an issue ??? It kinda makes me like wanna isolate myself I wonder if it’s just like a guy thing to be so infatuated with sex

Yeah that’s how I be thinking too. I have a friend who says she hasn’t had sex with her man since January because he keeps promising to propose to her and he doesn’t even help her with the baby or anything. So she’s like why I’m I going to give myself that easy when he can show me that he actually wants me and puts the effort into our relationship. Men think we just easy way for them.

@Rosy dangggg I need to be like her 😭 mine will push and push till I do it or he’ll start lacking because I’m not giving it to him then when I give it to him he’s back doing good . I think it’s in purpose fr

Yeah it’s crazy! I’m like what and I guess she tells him to sleep on the couch lol 😂 so yeah it’s crazy. I honestly don’t. I say no and no is no.

He's insecure and has trust issues...it's out of order to ve treated that way when you are going out to try and make some money for yourself and your family. I would speak to him to see if he's worried about something x

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