Sad

It’s okay to get overwhelmed so don’t beat yourself up, my son has been really difficult towards me for the past year but his dad says he’s not like that at all with him which is so frustrating. But what I’ve recently learnt is that children take out their anger/ feelings out on their main parent as they feel the safest with them so as he’s with you more of the time then he is his dad and you’re that constant who picks up the pieces time and time again who will unfortunately end up effectively being the punch bag (not physically as such but emotionally)

How old are your children as this sounds like they need to be respectful towards you?

@Lauren yes that is true I’ve also read this from multiple reputable sources. Exactly this, the dad is non existent so child feels like he needs to „behave” for him because his love is conditional. You’re getting the brunt of his frustrations which you are not the cause of, because he knows you’ll be there no matter what. I know it’s easier said than done but try not to take it personally, he’s having a hard time and is taking it out on the person who will always be there for him because he doesn’t know what else to do. What would happen if you said „I know you’re frustrated / angry, those feelings are normal. You’re having a hard time. I still love you and know you don’t mean it”. And held him. Worth a try and see what happens then? See if he opens up about what’s hurting him?

@Lauren that’s sad :(

@Kimberley he’s going to be 3

@Agata yeah I’m going to try this we had a pretty good day today