Am I the A hole?

Ohh ‘he eats first’ made me a bit sick in my mouth 🥴

It is your house but a CHILD .. that child is not going to have a lot . So why not give that child a little

Wow! We don't see things the same way, girl!

A child wanted more food and you told them to wait til your husband had finished? A child that was a guest in your home.. wow that just gave me the ick.

@Liv if I was that guest I would have taken my child and left and never come back.

You said you made enough for everyone to have seconds so I don’t understand the issue with just giving the child some more 🤔 why did they need to wait? I would always give children more food if they are asking for it. The child also didn’t need your explanation about him paying the bills etc, seems a bit over the top and 1950’s to me

1. That’s terrible hospitality 2. You refused a child food 3. That’s very old fashioned mentality

Did ur hubby brainwash you into thinking he always eats first? Cause no hun. Plus they’re a child. If anything wife and children first… ever heard of saving women and child first during an accident? The child had the right to more food

I can’t say I would have done the same in your situation. I would have happily just gave the child the seconds they asked for. I don’t really believe in the whole “he eats first” way of thinking

Sorry but this sounds like control from your husband side , why would u stop any child having seconds before your husband yet alone a guest . I would pick my child up & leave . My partner would give his 1st plate up for someone eles yet alone a second plate

@Liv exactly! That part

@Irita same, a grown man can fend for himself but when there’s plenty of leftovers and a child is still hungry. That’s just plain cruel. I wouldn’t even be speaking to them again personally x

Yes you are the A hole 🙈

@Stephanie saying no to a child for a grown man, crazy behaviour

Completely understand it being your house your rules/money etc but I know full well regardless of how much time and money my boyfriend earnt to pay for his food he would absolutely give his seconds up for a child that was hungry. And if he didn’t ide be making sure he did. This isn’t fair in my opinion

Yes, you are the A-hole. If I was the mother in that situation I would have gathered my child and left. Because the fuck you mean my child has to sit and wait before a grown man has finished his food and then wait to see if he decides to want to eat more?? Weird af 🥴

🤦🏽‍♀️ my husband would want me to give the child more food. He doesn’t care about eating first & he works very hard as well. We always worry about children first, guests especially!

Wow, just wow! I do have to say I'm very glad the way this poll has gone. That's just awful behaviour.

@Liv I’d even feel awful if my guest had to ask for more, I’m the ‘help yourself’ kind of host. I wouldn’t dream of refusing food to a guest, let alone a CHILD 😵‍💫 I’d give a child my own plate before I refused them food

@Irita THIS!! I wouldn’t be telling anyone to wait for someone to finish if they wanted leftovers. The absolute audacity

Children ALWAYS come first when it comes to eating.

That is awful. If I was that parent I would have left there and then and never returned. If I even joked to my hubby about him eating first before anyone he'd argue against it. Especially a child.

Wow! Shocking🤯

Now if he wasn’t there, I’d have saved him a plate. Made it as much food as he eats. We all should know how hungry our husbands can be. Gladly given that child a second plate. I’d definitely never come back to your house or speak to you again. Being a child, they don’t understand. Give that baby some food. Your “grown” husband would know that he had guest and a child should eat first. I think you shouldn’t have guest anymore if this is how they’re being treated. Anyone ever comes to my house, “help yourself “ if the food runs out we can buy more, like you said, “his hard earned money” you’re the asshole. Pain and simple.

This has got to be rage bait cause there is no way lol

I’m surprised you have any friends or guests with that type of attitude, I certainly wouldn’t want to be around you. Refusing a bit of food to a child?.. This is embarrassing..

Rage bating lol

And the ONLY vote saying no in the poll MUST have been you cause YES, you're definitely the A hole here! 💩

@BoyMom i was just thinking this lol

I’ve never heard of the man eating first except in the Amish community (I have a lot of Amish neighbours lol).

Girl…I get take care of your family first but if y’all had plenty, separate some for your man and give the child another plate😭 maybe you’re from a culture that does do something like this, not trying to assume backgrounds but this is very much an AH thing to do to a child

Don’t ever have guest anymore 🫣😂 wtf is that?!

I don't think this went the way you were expecting it to 😂😂🤯

What the fuck have I just read?! 😳😳 You're not a pride of lions and its not 1895, so let the kid eat some more food you weirdo!

For the 10% who have currently voted NO, (15 of you) please share your thoughts!

They definitely went home and slagged you off

I don't understand. Everyone had a plate. Everyone was eating. The child asked for a second serving... you said you made enough for everyone to have a second plate. That child having a 2nd plate would not have meant your husband went hungry. Even if there wasn't enough for everyone to have a SECOND plate .... you were hosting and if a guest asked for more and there was more to give i absolutely would have especially if they were a child. Yeah, you're the asshole. I would never come back to anything you were hosting. Not even going to fake the funk.

@Rachel I’m Interested to know their thoughts too

@Paige honestly there are more people like this than you’d think. Someone I know is like this, she’ll always dish up her husband first before kids or anyone else and take the food to him and when he’s finished, he just gets up and leaves the plate there.

@Rachel hit no by accident! 🙊

@Irita 😳 honestly I could never be that woman , myself I dish up my kids then my partners then mine. If we have guest it’s the guest then my kids then my partner & me . And if he’s cooking he does the same but mine before his

@Irita and the fact he just gets up and leaves the plate 😳 WHAT !!

@Paige yeah same or just do everyone at the same time and they come and take their food. She’d specifically do his, take it to him and then do everyone else’s and she’s also expected to pick up his plate after, he just leaves it on the table when he’s finished 🥴

@Rachel I accidentally clicked no!!

In our older generations, it was a common tradition for women to start eating only after their husbands had begun their meal, in India. Even today, my mother-in-law still follows that practice. But at the same time, we have a beautiful saying: “Atithi Devo Bhava”—which means “The guest is God”—and sometimes guests are given priority over everything else! That said, I truly believe we shouldn’t be too quick to judge traditions—or ourselves. Don’t be hard on yourself. I noticed some people were quite harshly honest with you, but in my opinion, kindness and empathy matter more. If I were in your place, I would have given the food to the child without a second thought. After all, love and humanity should always come before rigid customs.

I also hit No by accident. I get that times are hard & like you said, it's your money that bought the food. But it's a child. I'm sure your husband wouldn't begrudge a child some food. If he would, then he is also an A-hole!

Haha this can't be real! 😭 Crazy poor hospitality really... But on a more serious note, denying the child/guest seems very performative? 🤔 As you said you'd purposefully prepared enough for all to have seconds and told the child 'yes'. So what purpose did your actions really serve? Did you simply want to establish your husbands authority and dominance? Because, that's not the way to do. A king when entertaining guests would want to portray abundance and generosity not scarcity and insecurity 🥴

7/10 rage bait. You have shivered some timbers with this one.

Is this real? Surely this isn't real? Hubby eats first. Jesus Christ. That's not even 1950s. That's 1800s surely. Also, if your 'hubby' is then sat there and then actually takes that food while that child sits there and looks on. Then he's also the asshole. I wouldn't have fed the child over your husband and your husband not have any food at all but if everyone has had a serving?!?! Cruel and greedy

Yall stupid funny🤣