Mother in laws.

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My mother in law passed away when my baby was just 4 weeks old :( I miss her everyday and it’s sad that she is missing all the milestones 😭

I absolutely love my MIL. She is amazing. Unfortunately, she lives 15 hours away.

My MIL told my partner that she didn’t have a son or granddaughter when our lo was 8 weeks old before she’d even met her because my OH called his mum out on not making an effort to come to us to see her and expecting us to make the 3 hour trip to see her with a newborn. Our lo is now 19 months old and has still never met her.

I used to love spending time with her. She was quiet and reserved compared to me but nice. Sadly, her health suddenly took a turn to the worse a few years ago. And while she’s still with us, and we are lucky to have her. I hate saying it but she’s not the same woman anymore. It is incredibly hard to be around her now. Constantly walking on eggshells and care-giving for her.

@Antonia that sucks her loss not yours

I consider myself lucky the my MIL wants to be involved in my kids life. As she lives two hours away her coming usually means hosting them all weekend, which is a lot, but I would rather be frustrated with always hosting then not have her on my kids lives. Plus she adores them and respects my hard and fast boundaries with the kids.

It took two years of marriage to get on the same page 😂. But now I adore her.

Currently sat at her allotment with her while LO helps her plant potatoes :)

Luckily I get on pretty well with mine dont see her too often but that's just because of hectic lives etc. And my husband gets on fine with my parents too so we quite lucky. I got on with my father in law well also but sadly he passed 6 months ago but luckily was well enough to come to our wedding etc before going down hill and passing 2 months afterwards. He's been gone 6 months now

My mother in law is very emotionally unavailable bt I don’t think she knows it lol. And also my in laws are from up north Minnesota so they do a lot of small talk mostly abt the weather. And they appear to be very emotionally unintelligent, so with that being said I can’t actually talk to her abt things that matter to me so we just keep it very surface level. My Husband says she has had to deal with a mom who doesn’t have much to say all his life & it was very lonely for him. He barely knows his own mom, he is trying to get to actually know her now that he is an adult bt the woman is like Brick wall. She is very sweet bt doesn’t talk

Mine can be interesting! Very demanding at times over things so I am a little nervous about what I am going to be held accountable for 😅🤣

We see my in laws maybe 3 times a year. They moved 10 hours away right around when our second was born.

I love spending time with mine, it’s the stepFIL I find frustrating a lot of the time

My mother-in-law is a lovely human being who does all the classic Italian grandma things and loves taking care of her grandkids. I wish I spoke Italian better or that she was more comfortable speaking English so that I could get to know her better.

I do. She's so sweet and respectful. We got closer after my daughter was born. She'll be in the room for the birth of our 2nd baby!

I prefer mine to my own family lol

I lost my mom when I was very young so I was excited to have a MIL but unfortunately mine acts like a highschool bully. She always has something negative to say about somebody behind their back even her own kids and husband. It's really sad and frustrating. I dread having to go to her house. She never respects my boundaries and keeps threatening to spank my daughter just because she has a RBF. She thinks my daughter is looking at her a certain way but she looks at everyone that way. She's just 2 years old. We don't spank in my house at all. I've always wanted a mother figure so it really just sucks. 😔 Luckily my step FIL is a very kind man and we get along pretty good.

I love mines but hate how she raised her son she was a really bad mother and he loves her but doesn’t care for her I always have to look for her or get her something for Mother’s Day/ bdays he can’t let go of the fact she abandoned him I don’t blame him but yeah I love her because she made him and I was able to give him the love he truly deserved

Yes I prefer being with her more than my husband,coz my husband is always busy in video game until midnight or untill4 come to bed sleep for one hour then5;30he is out or bike ride whole day when not at work,no time for family or story nothing unless we are going to the store

I find mine rather irritating 🤦🏻‍♀️. Always has issues. Always lets us down when she says she will have babes for an hour (she asks to have her).

I love her, she’s a sweetheart, but I spend so much time around her (she sits for us 2 days a week while I’m working from home) that I get very annoyed with some of her quirks sometimes haha!

Mine is great, I really like her and we’ve never ever had a cross word. Don’t see her that often maybe once every 6 weeks or so but I’d happily see her much more and she’s a fantastic nanny to our little boy! X

@Rhi that really bothers me about mine too. She will make plans with my 10 year old and then break them all the time. It's one thing to hurt my feelings but to see him hurt just kills me.

It really depends...she is funny but she also can be mean sometimes so it just depends on her

Yes & no. I do enjoy the time we spend together & sometimes I’m bummed she never invites me on the girls trips she takes with her younger daughter, but I also don’t know if I would want to spend more than a few days with her without the kids lol. I love her, she’s the closest to a mom I have. However, I don’t always agree with things she says or does & she feels the same about me lol.

@Ashley I hate that for you! My mom died a month after I met my husband. I’ve been very lucky to have the MIL I do. My mom’s MIL was like yours. My mom lost her mom when my oldest brother was a baby & my dad’s mom was a nightmare for my mom. It’s so unfortunate. Glad your step FIL is at least a good grandparent.