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Postpartum recovery??

Now that we’re a good time away from our August 2023 babies, how long did it take for you to feel like you were mostly recovered/back to some version of normal? I mean mostly physical/mentally - knowing our old normal is long gone, and obviously raising a baby is an adjustment. When were you mostly back into life and functioning? For me it was probably 4-5 months, if not a little more. Not sure what actually counts as “traumatic” but my husband says I had a traumatic birth experience. I was in complete shock for about a week (my son came fast and furious about 2 weeks early, and I was NOT prepared). My husband says he spent the first few weeks thinking how I was not the woman he married, she was long gone. I was mentally out of it, physically wrecked for what seems like a LONG time. And - no one told me that wasn’t normal. I thought I was just coping like everyone else does, but not doing as good a job dealing with it. I’m now pregnant with #2, and we’re discussing what to expect, and what might be considered “normal” recovery. I kind of use the 6 week threshold that most women are probably mostly recovered by then. Some maybe a bit earlier, and a few take a little longer, and a few quite a bit longer…

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I would say it took me close to a year. I didn't have PPD but I was a super independent self reliant person before and it was a huge change for me. My breastfeeding journey was hard on me and I took that to heart a lot and my lady bits took a beating and I needed repair surgery so that took a long time to get back to any normalcy. I don't think there's a black and white recovery time, everyone is different because the circumstances are different. Either way give yourself grace and congratulations on baby number 2.

I feel like mentally changed permanently tbh Mainly in regards to anxiety about things I didn’t think about before

My husband and I hit a rough patch for I’d say at least 6 months while I was adjusting. It’s not all on the mother though. I don’t know your circumstances and there’s factors that could affect it. I think it depends on things like are you working and how much support your spouse/SO is giving. I had to quit my full time job to help myself mentally since my husband offers little to no help. (He usually works 50-55 hours a week and makes a lot more money than I did) I didn’t get better mentally until I quit my job when my daughter 1 yr 3m. I took 4-5 weeks to fully physically recover. I still didn’t want to be intimate for like 3 months.

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