Cutting contact with my mum & navigating this .

It's fine if you don't want contact with your mum, but I don't think it's very fair for you to stop your little girl from having contact with her, especially if they were close.

@Rachel her mind set and attitude is the reason why I won’t have her grand daughter around her anymore . It’s awful I don’t make it as an easy choice but I’m also trying to safeguard my daughter too . She does not need to see her Nana losing her mind etc . Her Nana cannot Nana rn and I think it’s better she does not witness this

@Chloe fair enough. The only thing I can think of to say then is that Nana is poorly & that you can't see her until she is better.

@Rachel it’s a really hard situation. I’d never purposely limit contact unless I had to . I feel for my daughter & I feel it in myself too

@Chloe I'm sorry you are in this situation. I kind of get it as my mum can go through phases with depression sometimes & she usually takes it out on me when she is having a bad time because my brother lives in Australia & my sister would never speak to her again if she fell out with her. But as much as she can upset me sometimes, I wouldn't stop her from seeing my little boy because I know how much she loves him & he loves her. You have to do what is best for your little girl, though, at the end of the day 🤗

@Rachel it’s so hard , I already do not have my dad in my life . So having to cut my mum out is taking another toll . She’s had my sister cut her out a month ago because her behaviour is getting out of hand for us to deal with at this point

@Chloe my Dad isn't in my life either, but it is for the best. I hope everything works itself out for you x

@Rachel devastated but I’m trying to solider on x

I see that you are in Cornwall. I am in Devon. If you ever want to chat about it, my inbox is open 😉 x

@Rachel thank you so much! X

I’m really sorry. I’ve recently cut my mom out (she’s severely bipolar and was getting so bizarre and out of hand- couldn’t act appropriately if her life depended on it and it was exhausting). My daughter is way younger and we don’t live anywhere near her so it was fairly easy. I would probably use the same excuse though, nana is sick.

I do know though that cutting contact with toxic family can sometimes be very relieving and peace-bringing to your life. Wish you all the best as you try and make good choices for you and your daughter.

I personally won’t ever lie to my kids. My advice would be to tell the truth but word it in a way toddler can understand. Think long and hard about how you say it because toddlers are simple creatures and will apply it to other circumstances and you want the application to be appropriate.

Mate i feel this. Currently in the same situation not knowing what to do xx