Finding time for intimacy & low confidence

My little boy is 9 months, and it’s been so difficult to strike the mood or find the right time with my husband. We have had our dry spells as a couple (9 years together) but find our way back into a rhythm. I suggested we have some time together this evening (baby asleep in crib) but he said he was tired. Which is understandable, he works a manual labour job with long hours and our little boy disturbs our sleep sometimes. He says I don’t really give “signs”. I’m not the most sexually confident person but postpartum I’ve found it more difficult. I don’t fancy changing into some tight outfit or putting a load of makeup on! I spend the day cleaning, crawling, walking dogs, cooking…it’s the absolute last thing I want to do. But I also don’t want him to lose interest! I’m finding my drive just isn’t there much right now. Anyone else in this position?

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Yup but ours just doesn’t wanna be alone last time I said okay we gotta hurry up and be parents because she started crying in the middle 😭🤣

It’s definitely tricky with young kids so we have had to get creative and mostly do it on the couch after both kids are asleep (I cosleep with baby and toddler has her own room) and I definitely looked like smashed ass being a SAHM to a 5 week old and a 2.5 year old 😅 but honestly I give signs by body language or just straight foreplay (kissing, touching) without changing into anything sexy

Ask him… even if he’s tired, would he be interested if you initiated. Sometimes it’s not as interesting when talked about or planned for some. If a man really loves you, he doesn’t care what you’re wearing. I look a hot mess 24/7 lol and I’ve read a lot of other women do too! I’ve been in my relationship 7 years and we’ve had our little dead-end, we had a conversation about what was lacking on both end and slowly work towards those. Maybe have that convo first?

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