Mothers day
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Can you ask if they’d meet you half way at a park the day before so you can have a Mother’s Day that’s special for you? Or can your mum come stay at your house on Saturday night and tell your partner your doing something special with her and your daughter coz you know he wants to spend it with his mum so you made plans with yours? If he cracks it just gaslight him. It’s about you that day not him
Just say no, it's mothers Day, you're the mother, so you get to decide how you spend that day.If he wants to see his mum, tell him you can do that on Father's Day. If he leaves you and your daughter alone to drive to his parents' house, then honestly, he's a child.
If I were in this situation I would tell him to go see his mum while I go see mine
Not sure if I mentioned i don't want to drive 4 hours to see my mum for less than a day. His parents will be at his sisters which is hslfway-2 hours away which is where he wants us to drive for mothers day. I did ask my mum to come up a couple days around then but she doesn't want to. The issue is i don't want to be in the car 4 hours with a toddler who isn't too fond of the car and spending the rest of the day with my inlaws. I will tell my husband to go without me but also I don't want to spend the day without my daughter while he takes her to see his mum. I feel it's reasonable that he either stays with us as a family or goes to his sisters alone... that's not too bad is it? I should also mention we went camping with his family for 3 nights over Easter so it's not like they haven't seen my daughter
I'd be telling him to go by himself, then spend a nice day just you and your daughter. Or see if your mum would visit you?
What does he say when you say you’re not keen to be in the car for four hours on Mother’s Day with an unsettled toddler? I would make it just about that; from experience partners can get very defensive about any criticism of their family. What if you suggest to go see his family another weekend instead? With an overnight stay with his or your family? You could celebrate Mother’s Day then; perhaps have a get together with your mum and his mum for a morning/afternoon tea? Just some ideas. 🙂 PS Don’t let him go just with your daughter! If he wants to go on Mother’s Day he can go alone.
I wouldn’t be travelling for any mother (mine or his - and that’s saying something cos my mum had passed away). We are mothers now too! And guess what, they had their mother’s days, and plenty of them, so it’s okay to want to be the one celebrated. I had this same issue last year, with my partner wanting to see his mum for Mother’s Day. I said no, it’s my first Mother’s Day and Mother’s Day is about me and my kids now, not anyone else. We compromised and saw his mother/grandmother the following weekend.
Why don’t you host at your house? That’s what we are doing, the morning I’m doing a fun run with our son while hubby takes his Mum out with his brothers then we will meet at our house for lunch. I feel it’s the best of both worlds
Stand your ground & tell him what you want for your mother's day, with him & your daughter. If he doesn't listen and his family is continually an issue for you . Then maybe you should have a long think about what your future holds with this man. Yes, we sometimes do things to keep the peace and please others, but you shouldn't be left feeling this way about a day, which is special for you or on any given day. I hope you can resolve this with your husband and have a wonderful mothers Day whatever you do xx
Go to your mums and he can see his mum! Thags what I’m doing! Or take the day for yourself and he can take your daughter to see his mum and her grandmother! It’s taken 4 years for me to realise this day is my day!!!