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My little is nine months and is the same. Sometimes he’ll sleep with a bottle but usually I need to breastfeed him. The only thing that helps is I have his crib right next to our bed and when he wakes up (usually once every 45min-2hrs) I will do my best to pick him up and then keep my eyes rested so when I out him back down in 10-20min in his crib asleep I go to sleep faster rather than stay up…. It helps me sometimes. But I’ve asked our Dr at every well baby visit and he doesn’t have an answer. It’s hard mama, we see you!!
Co-sleeping using safe sleep 7 and letting baby stay latched while I sleep has been life saving. We both sleep much better together. I know it’s not for everyone, but I can’t stomach sleep training. He doesn’t need to learn to sleep alone. Babies are biologically designed to sleep with their mamas and wake through the night. That being said, cosleeping isn’t for everyone so do what’s best for you. I just hate seeing mamas think something is wrong with their baby because they’re up at night and the internet makes it seem like everybody else has a baby sleeping independently 8+ hours, when that’s just not the case.
Mine as well. I am trying to use more actual food during the day and I notice this does correlate to the amount of wakings in a might. Mine goes right back to sleep after eating. If they aren't getting enough during the day, they wake to compensate. We are at 9-10 months in this group. By 1, they can be transitioned completely to food. I am working to give him as much food as he will take. They move so much and are developing rapidly.
This is probably not what you want to hear, but I agree with @Katherine here. Both my children have been like this. They don't necessarily latch all night but they still need their moms at night. Some babies are just better at sleeping thru than others and it's just a fact. "Training" won't help some children. Co-sleeping is how I got through it with my first and doing the same now with my second. Your baby needs you. If you can make it work for a bit longer, before you know it they will be sleeping better. Just one night at a time. There will be a time in life they don't need you...try to embrace it and snuggle them when they need it. I've found parenting much easier when I don't overthink my baby's needs and just do what they like because they are just babies and emotionally they need their mothers.
I’m right there with you. Mine is doing the same thing and I don’t want to sleep train. Sometimes bouncing him on a yoga ball works for me, but generally only nursing will soothe him. I cannot figure out how to night wean. It’s so frustrating, but I’m told this is normal and it will pass. Hang in there 🩷
Teething maybe? Sounds like your baby is 6+months old maybe he is just in pain. I have a 9month old but sometimes he sleeps all night but he has days when he just cries all day and wakes up multiple times at night, we caught up on it that he was having a tooth coming in that’s why he would cry and wanting to use my breast as a paci. I don’t believe in sleep training bc I don’t like seeing my kids cry, I try to tired them up as much as I can so at around 7:30 we have dinner, at 8 it’s bath time, 8:30 it’s bed time. Sometimes they will fall asleep right away or sometimes it takes them max 30 min to fall asleep.
Right there with ya! Back to 2 wake ups a night from down to 1. I’ve been told it’s a combination of teething, learning to crawl and stand. He’s never slept through the night but wow I’m tired. I also don’t want to do cry it out and even with light sleep training in terms of timed check ins… he will either put himself back to sleep or he won’t. And if he doesn’t he’ll cry until we come in. This too shall pass. One day we’ll be pulling them out of bed to wake up for school. But don’t get me wrong, it’s so hard and frustrating, especially when you see moms posting about how well their babies sleep 🫠
Mine hasn't sleep through the night yet either. He actually will sleep about 4 hrs first, then slowly decrease through the night so 3 hrs then 2, then 1.5, then 1 and he's up. It's very weird. So kinda same boat as you, but not exhausted about it. If he doesn't go right back to sleep after feeding, we just cosleep. Im not even trying to night wean, it will come when it comes. My first night weaned around 11 months, but we still did snacks in the middle of the night sometimes until around 18mo. Hell, I still wake up for snacks some nights. Nurse him to sleep, it's fine. He's not going to nurse forever and you don't have to force the night weaning. If you are scared to cosleep in your bed,l maybe set up his room to be 100% safe and do a floor bed for a while. It's cosleeping, but you can have more space between you and you don't have to worry about them falling off the bed or you not waking up with him
I do the same thing with my daughter…from 2 weeks old to 4 months she slept through the night then she hit 4 month regression-and up 2-3 times at night to where all I can do is nurse her/co sleep with her. I’m SAHM so I’m fortunate to if I lose sleep with her at night I can nap with her during the day if I need to… I was going to try and start putting in her own room and sleep training at 6 months per doctor advice because 6-9 is when attachment bond strengthens but I was just not ready to move her out or cut off being her source of comfort. So I want to let you know you’re not alone is sometimes throwing a boob and comforting you baby is the right thing and no one can tell you otherwise! It’s not lazy, it’s natural and no shame in picking them up to help them soothe v both of you being in pain. As I say all this I am going to try to put my baby in her crib in her room tonight and at least cut out the co sleeping but I’ll still nurse her back to sleep if need be🤷🏼♀️
I was just about to ask the same thing on here. My baby doesn’t exactly scream she’ll calm down when we pick her up but feeding her has been the easiest way to get her to sleep but we lay her down and she’ll wake up. I just have to keep trying. The easiest way to get her to mostly stay asleep has been laying her in my arms on the couch. That’s really the only way I get sleep. As my husband never hears her cry at night.