What do you think?

I hope he was joking because I wouldn't take that as a compliment

Forgot to mention, when I said but I haven't even been horny for a long time, he said but when you were it was awesome. I just feel sad that whatever other good personality traits I have aren't as good as just being horny.

@Melanie He wasn't. I know him and he was saying it very matter a fact and not rudely or anything. He always tells me when he's joking. I don't get how he doesn't know that's a bad answer?

That’s really bad that he Coudnt think of anything else to say. That really and seem like an answer to come from your fuck buddy. I’m so sorry and this needs addressing

Firstly that’s not a personality trait and secondly that’s not only offensive but the actual worse response. You’re married to this man and he can’t even name a personality trait and just views you as this sexual thing.

I would be so hurt at that answer. Like it’s so disrespectful

That’s a typical man thing to say. He was probably horny himself in that moment and that’s all he could think of 😂 men are very basic creatures and the sooner we understand that, the sooner we ladies will stop getting upset at stuff. Mine has sometimes told me my personality trait based on the temperaments model, sometimes based on being a mum and sometimes based on when I was absolutely down to have sex 24/7 😂 don’t think too much into it ❤️

This old-fashioned saying men will be men needs to go and all the thinking that goes with that and this clearly outlines why. He’s a grown adult and has married someone, I assume for a lot of other reasons than the fact she likes to have sex (which is great), you’d hope you’d base spending the rest of your life and the person to be a parent to your children off more than that. If I was hungry I wouldn’t say my favourite personality trait of my husband was his cooking… it’s demeaning and insulting. Expecting basic respect from your partner and not getting that is a very valid reason to be upset, and men especially need to be held to be higher standard of meeting that rather than being let off the hook for “being men”

Men are funny this way. Ask the question again tomorrow. Then ask again next week. You’ll probably get a different answer each time. To be clear, I would definitely mind. But I wouldn’t take it too seriously unless I felt it was said in a hurtful way. Edit: I just asked my man what his favorite personality trait of mine is and he said that I’m motherly. He loves how caring I am and my natural motherly instincts. Some might take offense to that sort of response, but I know my man wouldn’t mean any harm. I think this type of conversation depends on the tone, timing, and individuals.

I’m sorry this happened to you OP. You have every right to be upset and I hope you can bring it up to him and he receives this feedback in a respectful and gracious manner and makes thoughtful change to show you that he truly does value things like your kindness, compassion, intelligence etc more than just your willingness to have sex 💞

Wow the male bullshit excusing on this app is rampant lately. OP this is a disgusting response to this question whether you just gave birth or not. You are a PERSON not a sex thing, you deserve to be appreciated for all of the things that make you you. To those of you here excusing this, this is not "normal men" behaviour. It's gross and disrespectful and you should work on your internalised misogyny. I've had 3 serious relationships and even the one who cheated on me could name ACTUAL things he liked about me as a person. My current partner sometimes tells me how much he loves x, y, z about me total out of nowhere. This is not okay. I'm sorry OP 🫶🏻

@Amber So many people on this app seem to still hold the beliefs of 50s gender roles. That's fine if you want to live your life that way, but we've moved on as a society. "Boys will be boys" and "men will be men" are both outdated sayings to most. How are we supposed to believe men are the big, strong providers while simultaneously having to be mothered and babied and always given a pass in their own home? Must be nice to be those womens' men, but my partner has a mother and it's not me. I take care of him and love him and provide him emotional support, but he does the same for me.

I asked my husband the same thing because you got me curious….. his response was “I don’t know” and acted quite bothered that I asked 😑

@Amber I've noticed it a lot lately on these sorts of posts, some even going as far as to blame women for having too high expectations for things as simple as cleaning something without being asked 🫠 you hit the nail on the head 👌🏻

@Olivia gross……

@Poppy why is everyone so emotional this lovely Sunday 😂 what is gross about not taking something ones HUSBAND says so serious. Like one should KNOW a mans character before marrying him. It’s really really not that deep. I bet if every woman on this app went to their husbands to ask the same question they would get the most random responses 😂 most common would probably be “you’re an amazing mum” 😂

@Olivia ew…..

The way my hand would’ve went across his face babygirl he wouldn’t have known what hit him and I would just keep looking straight forward with my legs crossed and a smile on my face🙂‍↔️

Don't over think it or make a big deal. Men are dumb and most of them you have to drag intimate conversation out of. Just tell him you'll get horny for a better answer 😆 🤣.

Having a healthy libido/wanting to have sex is not a personality trait in itself.

So I went ahead and asked my partner this question when I got home from work to see what he would say. His answer (after a panicked look): "your strength, intelligence, determination, and compassion are what first made me attracted to you and it's only grown as I've seen you care for our family." Honestly he was sucking up and sounded like he was writing an English paper but I'm not complaining 🤣 I would be so offended if I was treated as if my genitals were the most important part of me and I'm not sure why so many women seem to give men a pass for it. They are just as capable of controlling their impulses and forming emotional connections as women are, we just for some reason give them a pass for not and are ok with expecting the bare minimum.

@Olivia the OP has already said he wasn’t joking and he was serious. I think she knows her husband better than you. But try again