Someone who'll understand

Have you spoken to him about this? From what I understand from men is that they just don't think the same way as us ... Alot (but not all) do need things spelled out for them - my baby's dad is the same. We're not together and he'll pop over and I'll hint that he needs a bath or a bottle made but unless I specifically ask he won't do anything

Yes, I have. So many times already. I have told him what I need and what I want to feel appreciated. But I don't think he remembers. I used to tell him that this is what I want, but now I just grew tired. I barely respond to his messages because there is nothing to talk about us. Just about the kids.

I feel you should communicate this to him if you haven’t already. You’re only hurting yourself by expecting. Explain to him that you want to feel like he cares more about your wellbeing. You’re upset about it, but say he can’t do much because he’s far and it could be possible he feels that way as well. You can explain to him what you might like for him to say, give him an idea of what you’re expecting. No one is a mind reader in any case, best bet is communication. My boyfriend and I struggled because I always expected him to just know, but truthfully he just didn’t know and he tried in his own way which wasn’t what I wanted. Us women are different from men, they don’t always think like us and we don’t think like them. Tell him what works for you so he can work on that to make you happier

No mama it’s not too much to ask I’m goin thru similar stuff. Me and My husband are long distance, he lives in the Bahamas and I’m in Arkansas.next month we will be transitioning from being apart to being together. I have the same issue when I need relief and just want a good rub down, when it comes to him, he will do it for 5 min and say his hands hurt or he worries about hurting me when he doesn’t. He says too often he doesn’t know how to massage so he needs me to teach him. I sometimes feel like he doesn’t try. I want him to utilize the tools he has to look up whatever he can to be self taught. In my mind I don’t feel like that hard or too much to ask. I can teach him but i deal with 4 children daily and work nightly, I don’t have the patience most of the time and find myself easily frustrated and or just wanting to run away. Smh I feel your pain. I feel like awe should not have to ask for that. But some men really don’t know unfortunately for us women and mothers We have to teach

Our men. We have let them know how we want to be taken care of in our time of healing and need .try asking him to take time out starting twice a week if possible to give you a massage or have him run you a hot bubble bath and hold on to the baby while you relax in the tub. I know it’s hard being a mom but you got this girl. Communicate with him the best you can without making him feel like you’re coming down on him. Put on your sweet voice. I pray it helps.

Thank u so much mommas for your kind words. I will do my best to communicate with him. All the best mommas ❤️