Sick of potty training

We have been doing it for 4 months and I totally get how ur feeling only this month has he started to actually understand. It does get easier just keep going, try to not let it get to u. Because that’s when my little boy was having constant accidents was when I was letting it stress me out. If it wasn’t for my mum telling me to breathe and if he has an accident it’s not the end of the world. I think I would have just given up. Just keep going ur smashing it xx

Definitely not "too old" to not be potty trained. Please ignore anything from whoever told you that. Potty training is hard. My November 2019 baby was potty trained around 3y3m. We didn't pressure him, just kept the potty out, put him on it before every bath and bed time. Asked him throughout the day. It's hard, and you need to be persistent, but they do get there in the end. Eventually he started saying he needed to go, kept having dry nappies, switched to pants and he rarely had an accident. On the flip side, my June 22 baby has been in pants for almost a year. He literally just potty trained himself, i can't take any credit. He just copied his big brother. He is also dry at night, something that my 5yo is not! They're so different and this particular thing really proves it. Keep going. By the sounds of it, she is 80% of the way there.

It can take a few months of accidents for them to actually embrace it! We started around February and only now got to a point where she asks or takes herself to the potty quite consistently (accidents still happen from time to time). It also ebbs and flows sometimes, so she was getting pretty good and then we had a couple of weeks of constant accidents (especially poos) and now she's good again. I'm 38 weeks pregnant with our second so I'm sure she'll have another regression when baby is here and that's ok, it's just how things go. My point is, have patience, it can take a long time for them to get to know their bodies and even grasp the concept of not weeing/pooing in their pants!

Thank you all. She's in knickers now cos we decided with the nursery that we can't just keep giving up and switching between nappies and knickers. So it's just accidents like 5 times a day which is so stressful. Nursery obviously doesn't mind at all but it's so difficult at home especially on weekends when we have plans. She will sit on the potty or toilet usually if we ask her but won't do anything even if we try bribing with chocolate etc. If she was going on the potty now and again and still having accidents then I wouldn't mind. But this just feels like a losing battle cos I'm like when will she ever get it? Also, when she wets herself, she just says "everybody has accidents" like in her potty training book. And she's just totally normal. But as soon as we try to change her the tantrum is insane and she starts hitting us and screaming to the point where she's having to pant for breath. It's honestly so horrible and I don't know what I'm supposed to do.

Have u tried letting her feel wet when she does have a accident. We had to do that with our little one. He would just flip out about it so I’d say okay then u come to me when ur ready. And he would come and say mummy I wee wee and I’d change him. Because I was tired of fighting him. Also try putting it in her court. That really worked well for us so i would ask him if he said no I’d say okay then if he had an accident I’d tell him why didn’t u tell mummy u needed to go. And just explain to him that he needs to tell mummy when he needs to go. And after a few days he sort of start to understand. It’s just prompting that independence. When ur out and about, just ask her once, otherwise they become tired of being asked and start to resent the toilet like it’s stopping them from being able to play if that makes sense. She will come around soon. It’s physically and emotionally training but it will fall into place soon xx

Also when she’s successful do u make a big deal. Because that worked as well for us. We do high five Everytime he goes on the toilet. And I just praise him saying how much of a big boy he is. X

@Bethany yeah I've tried leaving her but honestly I think she'd just stay like that!! I always explain to her that mummy asked if you needed to go and why didn't you tell me, next time tell me. We just keep reinforcing it but it's just so tough when she's not making progress with actually doing anything. We had a few days about 2 weeks ago where she'd say mummy my wee is coming and I'd take her to the toilet but she'd come off having not done anything. Then she'd wee in her knickers. I made a massive fuss of her using the potty at nursery and keep reminding her of it but she's still not going

Maybe try set times and see if that helps. It is trough it took us ages to get to where we are now. He isn’t perfect still had the odd accident but a month ago he was constantly having accidents but at home with no nappy on would just take himself. But if I put underwear on him under his pants he won’t go he will just have accidents am guessing because it feels tight like a nappy in that region. But have u tried without any underwear under her clothes. Xx

I don’t think there is anything wrong with her not being ready? My daughter is 3 in June and she isn’t ready yet, she has no interest in the toilet or the potty and will hold herself until we put her nappy on. I think just give it a little more time and she will probs pick it up quickly they all develop at different speeds she might be quicker at other things than other children and slow at this but just take it easy the more stress you get into the more it will be difficult as it could go the opposite way. This happened with us where I was comparing myself so much to other mums that my lo went backwards and it’s harder to come back from than just letting her develop naturally. My goal is to have her potty trained by August

Update: a wee and poo on the toilet at nursery again today. It's such a roller coaster of a ride!! She woke up in the morning and said "I'm not having any accidents today" so must be trying really hard today 🥺