Anyone else feel as though their friendships have changed since having a baby?
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100% I thought my friends would see my little lady growing up and be really involved, but they barely see her. I don't blame them because their lives have not changed. They are still the same. But I'm just thankful and make the most of the time I do spend with them even though that is so much less than before. I take it as time out from my day to day life. I really enjoy the time they do spend with my little girl because even though they don't have kids themselves they are really good with her...the new energy in the house is great for the hour they come over! I think as she gets older things might change 🤷♀️. But yes here in solidarity with that...however right now bringing up a toddler...I don't have much time for my friends either 😅 xxx
My best mate of 15 yrs just ghosted me as soon as i got pregnant then sent me a shitty txt saying the friendship was 1 sided i never didnout for her or her kids, never asked about her although she clearly forgot about me pucking her up from nights out, taking her to work at 5:30am oh and dropping her, her husband and 2 kids off at the coach at 4am to go to disney land just after I found out i was pregnant! I always asked about her and her kids but never got anything back from her, she never asked to meet up ot go out for tea and when she did it alwaya followed by doing something for her first! I think she just used me the whole time and soon as the spotlight was on me for a once i was useless to her so she just stopped bothering! I only have people that want to be in my life and my kids even if its only 3 people, least i can rely on those people.
I can really relate to what you’re saying. Having a baby changes so much about your life, and sometimes friends who haven’t been through it just don’t fully understand. It’s not that you’re making it “all about you” — your world has just shifted, and it’s natural to want to share that with your friends. It’s really brave of you to voice your feelings, even if it hasn’t been received how you hoped. You’re not alone in feeling like friendships change after becoming a parent — it’s hard, but it’s also okay to outgrow some friendships if they can’t meet you where you are now. Sending hugs!