My baby acts like I don’t exist
If it wasn’t for me having a partner and a lot of family and friends whom my baby will laugh, play and cuddle with I’d genuinely be contacting the HV over the way my baby ignores me.
She won’t look at me in the eye or smile at me but will laugh and smile at everyone else. When anyone else is there irs like I don’t exist. All I do is hold her and watch everyone else have the fun whilst I’m a piece of furniture. I feed her and change her and make her meals. I get no attention or love. Only started since month 4 I’d say and now we are 6 months. I’m starting to think I’ve did something wrong and now it can’t be undone, like maybe I didn’t speak to her enough or maybe she felt my stress in the first few weeks as we tried to BF. Can someone please help me why.
I jump around and sing I read to her twice a day we go to 3 baby classes and swimming we do everything together and I get very little reaction. She will not even turn her head when I say her name id think she was deaf if it were not for this not happening with others. Very responsive to name and eye contact with everyone else.
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My baby can be like this, I find he laughs more with everyone else and with me I have to work so hard to get a reaction out of him 😔 I told my husband and he actually reminded me that he doesn’t sleep for anyone else, he doesn’t eat with anyone else like he eats with me, he doesn’t let anyone else change his nappies without a fuss - basically saying we are their safe spaces. I think when you spend so much time around them and do so much for them the excitement with us fizzes so it’s more fun with everyone else 😭 I think sometimes you just have to force yourself to remember that really they feel most comfortable around us and eventually as they become more aware they’ll appreciate it x
My boy is the same. It’s the worst feeling.
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Gosh this sounds really tough, but it's not going to be anything you are doing wrong! I don't have any advice or explanation (sorry), but it sounds like you're an amazing mum, remember she's just a baby and her emotions aren't fully developed etc., it's maybe just that she's stimulated/excited by new/less familiar faces and she's very comfortable around you as she is with you so much, so doesn't have the same reaction. Im sure this is easier said than done, as I think I'd feel really sad at this too, but try not to read into it and I'm sure in time as she becomes more vocal and expresses her emotions you will realise you are her absolute world.